I was wondering if any of you guys wear a chastity device to abstain from doing the deed? I want to buy one from amazon and maybe itll make this journey easier...Any thoughts?
No. A big part of recovery process is building the will power to say NO. Chastity devices defeat the purpose of that. Say I was addicted to herion,and you forced me into a room alone until all the withdrawal symptoms subsided. Sure the drug would have left my system at that point,but the mental/psychological dependancy will still be there. Same principle here. You can chop your hand off and pluck your eyes out and still be addicted to porn snd masturbation all your life so long as you still desire it.
Wrong. How will you masturbate without hands and watch porn without eyes? The addiction gets weaker with longer abstinence. We should do all it takes not to relapse - making the reboot harder for yourself makes absolutely no sense if you take porn addiction seriously. OP, if you feel like you can handle locking your cock, go for it.
plenty of drug addicts go to rehab or prison for long periods of time, and then return to their addictions as soon as they get out because they never got over the mental dependancey of their drug. Their minds still desire and love the high they got from it even though they are no longer physically addicted it. Locking your dick in a cage will do nothing.
Your mind must be 100% commited to overcoming porn. Part of that is building the willpower to say no.
That's a nice ideal but unrealistic. Ask the 200k desperate members on this site what they think about willpower. And those who choose to force themselves into abstinence by will only don't even reach those long periods of time. This naïveté is what lead me to fail at this thing for years. The brief moments of glory I had were when I admitted to myself that I had no power over this habit, installed web blockers and locked my screens outside of bedroom. Paradoxically I felt that my willpower was stronger during those times, not weaker. Use any means necessary to win. You're weak. Embrace it.
There was another thread recently. It will make you impotent and you wont be able to get it up when needed.
Wrong. All porn aint visual. They have audio stories that you can hear with your ears. Add some kind of sex toy to the mix and your point goes out the window.
Im not gonna carry it with me. When i go to work, ill leave the key at home, or whenever i go out..its basically to keep my boners in check while im out and about...
Good luck with your goals for getting and maintaining an erection, having sex and having kids. No seriously, good luck. When you touch a hot stove, what happens? You get burned, you get some pain, so your brain knows that if you touch a hot stove, you will get pain and you will avoid touching the stove or going near it again. The brain only cares to avoid pain, it is not concerned with success only your survival and you reproducing to keep the species going. What this device does is it creates a body mind connection that erections are bad, your brain will not know the difference between an erection from porn or whatever, to an erection from a loved one, all it knows is erections=pain/no good/ungodly/unwanted/do not go there. You could try Vigra when you want to conceive one day but you still need arousal, this device will stop arousal. What I'm thinking of doing is joining the NoFap academy. By the way, how much did you pay for that thing, $300 yeah? Some Christian guy is making a killing selling those and using god to sell it.
Honestly I've seen other people promoting these things and I'm convinced they are paid shills. I wouldn't be surprised if these chastity device sellers see a market in the NoFap community.
Telling people to buy boner-killing cages to combat their ED because "your weak and have no power over your habit" is not going to help anyone.