If I did it, you can too! You'll get there for sure, try incorporating some of the stuff I laid out in my post into your life as well. I didn't mention cold showers - some people say it helps them commit (also they have been proven to be effective in treating depression). For me, it's an everyday morning habit. To stop yourself from relapsing, always keep reminding yourself why you're staying away from PMO: real women are always superior to porn, even if it's just a conversation and nothing more. Write it on your hand or something if you need to. Best of luck!
Thank you a lot Eridan, I'll follow your advice and I'll try to get back my ancient streak. Right now I'm on vacation so I'm doing a lot of sport, going out with friends and studying to keep myself bussy. By the way, being addicted to pornography sucks, I'm really glad I realized that the only things porn was bringing to my life were, social anxiety, confidence problems, seeing women like objects to satisfy me, and depression. Again, thank you a lot four your reply
This post is very inspiring for me, cause i have pretty much the same goal as you. Im 20 and never ever had something with a girl, currently im on a 43 day streak, and it feels like that im closer to sex than ever. You entire post get along with my own opinion. I said to myself to go to every party and talk to girls there, until it is no problem for me, but like others, im a little bit scared of the moment when it finally happens...
I actually want to live my life alone and die a virgin,you can call me weird for that,but I'll achieve true peace when I'm able to do this.
Why? Don't you want love? Don't you want a family? I suppose not everyone is different. My idea of an ideal life is not always same as everyone...
@Powerous No. I don't like being the centre of attention or any attention at all. I'm a quiet and reserved person and minimalise my interaction with females. I also don't want a family,it's burdensome. I'd rather spend my money on myself than someone else.
Great story man ! I wish I had lost virginty at 23 too, when had more energy and better erections for sex. Lost it at 29 and now still 29 years old but not a virgin anymore. Anyway I understand how you felt at that age being still a virgin cause 23 is still damn late when most already had sex at 20 years of age. But yeah its the experiences with girls and chances of having sex that makes being a virgin easier. Hard to be a virgin when you never kissed a girl, thats when you really doubt yourself. Merry Chirstmas ! Wish you all nofap Christmas and nofap New Year ! I mean you can be virgin or not but nofap is something you should do no matter what, at all times, at any age. Stay strong ! Pcmaster.
I think you're wilfully deluding yourself. I hope this doesn't come off as though I'm trying to put you down, because I'm really not. I used to think the same way you do now, trying to convince myself that I was content with things as they were in my life, but looking back, I know I was lying to myself - and I knew it all along, I just wouldn't admit it. There's nothing wrong with living alone as a virgin, but I honestly doubt it's your true ambition. It's ridiculous how we put so much stress on our experience with girls (or lackthereof) in terms of assessing our own self-worth, but I couldn't help it. Even now, the question keeps coming to my mind if there really is something wrong with me for not having the experience most guys do. I believed it would go away after I finally lose my virginity, but it didn't... at least not completely. If you're having trouble "keeping it up", I'm quite sure your age isn't the culprit. I had the same problem and it was just me being unreasonably nervous. Anyway, we're both still very young and there's objectively nothing stopping us from making up for what we didn't get to do in the past. There's no point in blaming our past selves, we can but learn from our mistakes and evolve. Merry Christmas to you and may your 2019 be at least as good as 2018!
Damn... I'm 24 and never got past the best friend stage. I want to have the option to get in bed with a girl, but I rarely have opportunities to meet women in general..
Thanks for sharing! I'm here reading instead of falling down the PMO rabbit hole, and stories like this are really inspirational. Also, I'm gonna checkout those YT channels for sure.
Beautiful quote This post is inspiring I'm in the same situation as you were. Never had physical contact with a girl even though most find me attractive, just goes to show how if you don't go out and fight for it you won't get it, women won't magically aproach you.
Thank you all for your kind words! Glad to be an inspiration for other people. Unless you live as a hermit somewhere in the wilderness, you most certainly do have opportunities to meet women. Just don't be afraid to seize them - you have nothing to lose. Good for you. Everybody has their own idea of success. I had the same problem - the fear of escalating - and I still have it to a great extent, but I'm working on it. What I find necessary is getting comfortable being physical with girls in a non-sexual way; further escalation then becomes much more natural.
I also have the problem of not having opportunity to meet women, i think i should move to a bigger city.
Thank you for the post Eridan! I've just come back to NoFap after a hiatus and reading your post is just the kind of inspiration I need so again thank you.