The 2019 X90 Hard Mode High Accountability Elimination Challenge

Day5 checking in

 

Day 12 Check In, No PMO.
Having mood swings lately. One moment I am motivated, another I feel really down.

 

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respect that. Personally, sex is just sex. Bodies rubbing against each other and drilling or being drilled. I dont attach connections with it but I understand the need for connection. What I cant do is go on for years loooking for connection while not getting sex. I dont mean to undermine you and respect your beliefs and emotions. I never understood this abstain sex for feeling stuff. I am not emotionally empty and love being in a relationship and love in general. I have just been able to keep the physical and emotional separate. SO what am I missing? DOnt you like having sex unless you are in love? Asking because (if you are a woman) it would good to understand the other side of the issue

 

Please ignore my previous comments. I understand that your experience was horrible. I hate the word 'slut' being used to put women down. I on the other hand love women who are unabashed about wanting to have sex. If we men can demand sex, so can women. My advice would have been to brazen it out and fuck anybody you wish to for but obviously, we see things differently. I would, however, say you are not an object to be used. You are a beautiful creature who needs to be admired but not abused by little men with small egos. You are a beautiful and unique human being. You wanting to have sex is not a sin. It does not make you a slut, it makes you human. There is nothing wrong if you want it and AGAIN NOTHING WRONG IF DONT. YOUR LIFE YOUR CHOICE. Please don't fall to the trap of victim blaming yourself because of societies expectations of gender roles. You don't have to be Virgin Mary and pure. In that case, I am a ''man-whore''. I don't care about that appendage because even if I want sex, I don't do that about by slut-shaming somebody or emotionally blackmailing somebody. Át the same time you are right. Your body is your temple. You need to care for it and people need to respect it and you, respect your needs, your emotions. Stay blessed. You did not reach any bottom because that asshole who called you a slut was an idiot. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT. Find connection, find love, find the real deal. You deserve it. Your were not to blame for someone's insecurity.

 

Good to know. I guess having a women in the group helps. People who suffer from PMO often loose their connection with real women and hope you can offer us perspectives. My problem is I have become too kinky for normal sex and needs new stimulatons which real people cant often provide. I also have important tests and hence I cant spend my life searching out new forms of porn, new ,aterials. I was never satiated before, it was crazy. PMO and sex craze has driven me to the point of fucking up my goals

 

Checking in for day 2

 

Hey mate! We've all been there and it's rough - but the key is to always to pick yourself back up (so it's awesome that you are here), learn from the mistake, and take precautions to make sure you never make that mistake again. So what made you give in and how can you prevent it in the future? And if you're unsure how to solve it, maybe someone here in this group can help, we are surely dealing with very similar triggers and thoughts many of us.

 

Are you from the US by any chance?