Well, when we relate some things happen to me in life, I could simply co-relate. 1. I LOST MY RESPECT I was living in a hostel when I was 15. my friends caught me masturbating. the funny thing is the words spread around without me knowing. I couldn't understand why people were laughing at me passing notes in class. I don't how many girls got to know. A simple reply to them. if they were brave enough to tell the teacher or my parents, I could live a better life than now. I didn't know they know till I pass my graduation. only after that, they called me and pass the message. I finished my high school with no friends and teachers that won't help me in times of need. now I know why? 2. I LOST MY FOCUS I was barely good in sports. and my studies weren't any good. i suck at making decisions and now ended up a dumb person. if i didn't masturbate, i would be more fit both physically and mentally. i would ended uo in igher position now. still, it is not so late. i could earn back my respect and focus. Do share everyone. let's not be depressed with our failures
That's a hypothetical question. I potentially missed out on relationship experiences, because I more or less replaced dating with PMO. But I might have avoided STDs and crazy gfs by not dating, you just never know what would have been. I do know that I could have done better at school if PMO wasn't such a bad addiction for me. Not sure how that would have changed my life.
Exactly the same, it basically wrecked my 20's. Im going to be 29 this summer and I don't have much to show for it. I have a decent (still not really great) job, but not a career, I basically have no credit, I have almost no friends (at least in the state I've been living in the last 7 years) been single since I was 21, 90% of my family doesn't even really respect me. If you compare my life in my teens/very early 20's (pre-smart phone) to the rest of my 20's you'll see a big difference. At one point I had a healthy circle of friends, I had extracurricular hobbies, I had steady gf's...and now? I'm a shell of what I once was, I just hope it's not too late to reclaim it. I miss it.
I basically feel I lost out on some relationships and sexual experiences, and a lot of time. I feel like I wasted my 20's.
Here is a list. Some of these losses can't be blamed entirely on PMO. - lost my faith in God because he wouldn't help me stop - lost my high GPA in college and my hope of learning physics - lost respect from college roommates and friends who guessed my problem - came close to losing my first job probably (due to using their internet connection for porn) - lost respect from coworkers who guessed - came close to losing my life (suicide) and did lose my career due to self-hatred when I discovered internet porn - lost most of my retirement savings when I had psychosis and gave it all away to charities - lost a lot of sleep over the years too LOL - lost the self-respect and faith in myself needed to start over after each loss (so I have tended to wallow in bitterness instead)
I definitely lost TONS of my time, did way worse in school, and lost tons of sleep. I also lost tons of time where I could have been dating.
I lost - time - a huge possibility of self-development - testosterone - intelligence - possibility to see women in a different way as sexual objects I am going to regain that all back.
So true on my case. Getting friendzoned on every girl i tried and going to a useless job which i don't like. Hope quiting this addicrtion give help getting my masters degree
I lost touch with reality. I discovered and have rediscovered all too often that porn fantasy land only creates distance and crappy self esteem. Porn is a liar. It may be ok for some, but never for me. It is life draining. Momentary escape and pleasure with a promise of long term despair and anxiety.
Porn made me traitor all the values and ideals I believed in. Porn changed and corrputed my world-view. Porn made me an arrogant and unsympathetic idiot. Because of Porn I made my friends feel uncomfortable around me. Because of Porn I couldn´t be empathic when I should have been. Porn made me selfish, irritable and impatient. Porn made me superficial and aggressive. Porn made me feel rushed and restless. Porn consumed all my hopes, dreams and aims and made them feel useless and pathetic. Porn isolated me from my own emotiones, the most intimate part of myself. Porn made my twenties feel like a downward spiral of misery and despair. ... I think I could go on like this for quite a while... thanks for starting this post and making me reflect all this. Allthough it hurts like hell to realize all these losses I think that sometimes we just have to let it ache to feel better.