I am masturbating in moderation if I feel tired much and a little bit of stress. This is a great accomplishment that I did so far.
The consensus is that porn is the worst part of the addiction, so well done! Keep it up. Using masturbation for stress and fatigue is potentially addictive, because it's an unhelpful reason. You might want to find alternative solutions. Fatigue: Rest and sleep are the obvious ones. Stress: There are so many healthy options, such as yoga, socialising, sports, meditation, walking, exercise, clubs, reading, and so on. Or, if you find that you stress too much over things that really shouldn't stress you, seek counselling or therapy to change your automatic responses.
You are correct. Edging is known to be the worst. Then porn. Then masturbation. Sex and ejaculation comes lowest. Although, perhaps in your case, the order is a little different.
my first erection problem started after i edge myself for 30 min or 1 hour before coming. i thought it will make more horny for realy woman. what a stupid idea. i didnt know the problems back than.
I am sorry man, but you aren’t doing much. Not only with masturbation you are at a high risk to return watching porn, the whole masturbation thing is as well an energy sucker, an erectile dysfunction cause, a destroyer of your social magnetism and other psychological issues.
Dude, why do you masturbate? you're still using porn in your imagination. You will still fell the symptoms of anxiety, fatique, low self-esteem and lazyness You need to quit Porn and Maturbation altogether since they are heavily connected. Reach 30 Days Without Porn and Masturbation and things should be easier from there.
This is a ridiculous negative comment, abstaining from porn use is a huge achievement. Its true that masturbation will make relapse more likely and therefore worth aiming to reduce or abstain from for a period of time. You forget for many of us porn usually is very progressive, to more and more extreme and disturbing material and also often involves hours of fapping and edging followed by feelings of shame and failure. Although indulging in fantasy and masturbating could lead to hours of edging, in my experience this is just not the case. Masturbation does not have to result in shame if viewed in the correct light. Also I really doubt the truth in your assertion that masturbation can cause erectile problems, its the hyper-stimulus of porn that does this not fapping alone.
You forget that when you masturbate, you need some sexually exciting material, it can be for a while some healthy fantasy or some positive sex experience. However, sooner or later your mind will get bored with this and will recreate porn and hardcore porn memories.And then boom, one day you are peeking at porn again and you go back to square one again. Im here to tell the truth, not to give cheap and harmful encouragement. Either you quit cold turkey porn and masturbation at the same time or you are fooling yourself.
As I said I agree that masturbation will lead you back to porn in most cases, however you do not need to be so negative about what is an amazing achievement of 50 days porn free for this guy. "I am sorry man, but you aren’t doing much" is complete bull. 50 days from porn is more than many can manage, and is a great basis for a recovery from a bad masturbation habit. If you want truth, then you should realize that just because your 125 days free from PMO doesnt mean your immune from "peeking at porn" again either.
But Im much less likely to relapse than this guy. If a friend has something dirty on his face, my duty is to say it. Believe what you want, use your own method. Mine has given me excellent results. I was expecting strong arguments from you but instead, I perceive agressiveness.End of communication with you.
Now, that's not true. It is perfectly possible to masturbate without any sexually stimulating material, fantasies or thoughts. I know, because I've done it. For example, wake up to morning wood and masturbate just for the feeling. I agree with @Natedog . The OP needs support and validation, not putting down. Just because it wouldn't work for you doesn't automatically mean that it wouldn't work for everyone else. Let's be nice.
Enough is enough with the argument that masturbation is harmless. It is not and this has been enough discussed in many threads. The OP will value himself if I’m putting him down or telling him a good piece of advice. You won’t.
Mine best record was over hundred and fifty days without porn. I did masturbate in that period, but I was only thinking like normal sex with a woman/girlfriend... When you think about porn stuff and masturbate, to me it is same as watching porn. But I am kind of in the fence in this "debate". Saying you must go "cold turkey" etc. is not the answer. Fighting against any addiction, is difficult, because we all have to go inside our self and realize the pain. One very wise speaker once said, that "pain seek pleasure". We are all people who are hurting on some way. I can fight very well, I think I can even make great records and say that, "yeah I got 200 days." But in the end of the day, is that enough? The pain is still there, and it is hurting every day. The real question is are you comfortable with love? Real love? Even when you fail, or do you just want stay in the dark place, with the addiction?