When I had an important goal in my life, where I knew, PMO is definitely in the way of the goal, I managed to keep clean two month. But after I reached the goal, I gad no reason to fight. And honestly, I don’t want to tell anybody about this Goal, so please don’t ask. My Problem is to find a new reason, that really keeps me Motivated not to do PMO, even if I have blue balls. I don’t want to be controlled of this mess anymore, I don’t want to. If anybody reads this, just answer what motivates you most.
This is life. We got some goals and try achieve them. Than something new comes up. It is a cycle. Im studying for the university exam and I quit masturbating to focus better. It is the only goal I have for 10 months. And I think what am I gonna do after that just like u. There are lots of stuff you can do. You can learn a language, an instrument or you can build your body. There must be something makes you excited.
When you have goals bigger than just staying sober for a time period your mind will adapt in a way that the main focus is achieve that goal instead of PMO. Of course that change isn't reached in one day, so try leveling your changes. Contratulations on two months clean, bro I know you can go further just level your goals and keep going.
My goal is to remain free from anything controlling me that I do not choose to do so. PMO clouds my thinking, soaks up far too much time, makes me less capable of loving others well. It is selfish and isolates me from true connection with other human beings. PMO can only destroy and kill. I want to live!
In my opinion you've come back to a brain fog. I can understand how you feel, and probably it's depressing. You probably feel like you cannot do anything on yourself. I had your feelings too, and that's why I would like to give you my own suggestion The main reasons for quitting PMO is your freedom from yourself and to become a real man. A man ain't made for porn and addictions like smoking, drugs, alcool and gambling games. A man must be able to work, love his family, take his own responsibilities and face life without any fear. So don't lay down on the floor. Fight against your enemies and porn. One day you'll see the fruits of this path. The best is still up to come! Hope I've been useful!
T Thank you for the realistic view. I hope you will also find a new goal after 10 Months. Good luck to you. Will learn an instrument.
Well, your answer is a jackpot for me. Thank you very much. That give me hope. I am not the only one who is going through this. I will deeply think about your thoughts becoming a true man.
I'm waving at you cuz I am in a similar situation. I hit my 90 days but I felt like something inside me was pushing me to give in. It happened. I took stock of the situation and am trying again. And I have been addicted to this shit for over 4 fucking decades. But I won't quit and I know you won't either. Please keep trying. I know I will!
Wow, 4 decades is amazing. Well in bad way. Well my own home is a place, where i can’t watcj porn. Decices are restricted, iphone and ipad. Not internet no tv at home. Just by parents, where I can use there Internet devices is the Problem. And even that got better.
By doing pmo we are just blinded about the reality of life, the joy of it, the freedom and passion we can feel and sensen, and above all the peaceful mind to get. Away from emotions.. urges.. anxiety.. pain and health disaster. You are 26, so if you didnt know that it not an option to stop this time you will be foreced later. All reasons and plans that tell you to stay on pmo are LIES. It is not a judge.. just think about it and you will know. And you need to know that nofap is not preventing yourself from something you like. But to correct your physiological direction again and make you a stable person in your life, so eventually you will thank god that you worked hard to be free from this addiction.
My motivation is basically what can I do? What am I capable of? Why I am doing this is I want see what is it I can do with what I have. I have everything I need to become everything I want to. I just need to have a vision.
The goal is to not PMO ever again, not x months. The goal is to stop being aroused or able to masturbate. The goal is actual sex.
Thank you for your open words, really, I appreciate it. What shocked me, that I will be forced to quit on day. And you are right. Thank you. And a reminder. That to fight against a addiction, is hard work. Thank you.