So back on another streak of NoFap, no sex and no alcohol. At first I was really motivated and getting loads done and feeling a lot mentally stronger. But the last week I’ve been exhausted, bored, angry and depressed. I Finnish work early and come home to bed. My sleeps pretty crap dreaming about trauma and stress. I get up in the morning and feel as though I want to go back to bed. Did martial arts today and it really bored me and came home for a nap. So sluggish and tired all the time. Has anyone else had this problem with their reboot. And any tips to help deal with it would be appreciated thanks?
Thanks dude, was really close to calling an escort, but I know where it all ends up. Sick of going round in circles. Got to stick to it this time.
No I wish, haven’t got a girlfriend and escorts are out of bounds too. Bloody terrible withdrawals I was in pretty deep
Np man, best way to feel good is to go to the gym and workout without music and other stimulus, then take a cold shower and spend 10 minutes just observing the present moment and try to appriciate the moment, makes you feel 10x better...
Lol the reason I asked is flatline is not imo a side effect of NoFap "per se", I'd say it is more of a side effect for those who abstain from having or pursuing regular/actual sex in the meantime (like if fap was your only means of sexual gratification, etc...) Expecting superpowers from NoFap is like saying quitting chocolate/sugar/etc... is supposed to give you a giant craving for celery (or name some other vegetable lol!) XD. I'm not saying NoFap is useless, just that it's something you have to guide, not something you're to be guided by. Flatline is imo a result of guys not doing that and expecting magic results just because they abstain from fapping -- and then finding out it doesn't work that way......
Ok cheers, no I don’t have a mrs, my counsellor reckons I need some abstinence under my belt.. before I get in a relationship. But being isolated and the loneliness can be really triggering too when things aren’t going too well it would be nice for someone to have your back. It’s not just the fapping and porn it’s actual escorts, street workers, phone lines etc. I’ve used sex, porn drink and drugs occasionally to deal with stress, attachment issues, mental health and trauma. So I have been trying for 2 years to do this 90 days. The furthest I’ve got is 53 which was ages ago. Woke up 3 in the morning last night feeling that awful I had to act out to stop all the shit going round in my head. And have been acting out all day. I read somewhere that it’s worse to save it up for 2,3,4 weeks and then have a blow out. So I think I might try just masturbating to fantasy and cut out the escorts etc. Then start looking for a girlfriend when I’m in a better place. At least I haven’t had a drink for 3 weeks. But still feel pretty lousy after messing up.
Nofap has helped me a lot but nothing compares to the benefits of going sober. Alcohol did more damage to myself and loved ones than anything else I have ever encountered. It can also provoke some serious sexual anguish.
Thanks, yea today doesn’t feel half as bad with the relapsing, as I’ve not drank. In better shape too. And feel strong to learn from mistakes and keep moving forward. I imagine the longer I stay off it the easier the sex addiction will get.
I love training and the cold shower thing works a treat thanks. I will work on the meditating after sounds an awesome combination thanks
Flatline is good, thats where all the neuroplasciticy happens. The energy you feel between fresh quitting and flatline are just withdrawal symptoms, when your brain hasnt yet accepted that the situation has changed. Now flatlines means, your brain is in a state ready for building up permanent change. While it feels like the least important part of your recovery, it actually is the most important part of all.
So do you advise that I go for an absence free period from ejaculating completely. Or would easy mode be a more sustainable option as I’ve been trying for a couple of years to do the 90 day reboot and never felt it get easier. Surely I’m always going to crave sex as we’re biologically designed to breed and enjoy sex. Thanks
It is only my own opinion, but I dont see why someone should not have sex with a girlfriend or a f buddy. Just dont have sex with prostitutes, because this is unearned gratification which misleads the brain into learning unrealistic social behavior. But if you have a girlfriend or if you are good at picking up up girls, what harm can it do?
Please tell me which one (in a private message), because I really want some authentic real sex with real women too.
This is incredible, I'm just curious where you learned that from if you remember? It makes sense I just want it to be true so badly. It's horrible but I've just become so skeptical of good news.
I first learned it from a youtube dating coach who made a video about nofap. And here from that other Thread a post from Boxerito with very similar content: Edit: And dont worry, theres no single logical reason that it could be not true.