Hey guys, I Failed myself i think. I watched P. But ik did not M to O. So i dont know if i should reset my counter. I came no nofap to stop M to O while watching P. And since i only looked at P. I dont know if i should reset my counter. Any opinions, reasons to do or not to?
If you have to ask, then I think you know the answer. If you don't reset, what's to stop you 'just' looking at porn every day without O? You can't allow yourself to keep looking as sooner or later you will watch it and O and then feel even worse about it.
I quess you are right. But in our everyday lives we are constantly confronted with porn related images and I can resist that perfectly fine.
If that's the first time it's happened, I think you can "get away" with not resetting your counter. But my advice would be to be clear with yourself in the future what is and what isn't allowed during your recovery to avoid confusion in the future. You set your own rules here, but it's best to make sure you follow them consistently.
Thanks for the support man, I just need to keep my rules clear. But how about you? I mean, holy shit! 148 days! How do you deal with the urges? Or do the heavy urges only occur in the first few months?
If a women wants me she has to come and get me and then I can say no if I want. NoFap has helped me to be in control of my mind not my mind controlling me. This is a paraphrase from Sogyal Rinpoche.
I can get a heavy urge about once every 3 or 4 weeks now but it has to be triggered. Full moon triggers it together with beautiful women. . I just wait them out and don't touch. That is the most important rule not to touch. I am in control as I know I have the power not to edge.
Sometimes I run after them too just for fun it is the mans job to chase a little but not like a BULL ON SPEED