Every time I slip it's because of this. I have no interest in making it a reality but I can't stop watching it? What's the attraction? Is there a psychological reason behind it? Anyone have experience with this? I have a beautiful wife I would never share. WTF.
Idk, I would never watch that. Maybe refer back to the getting started with nofap pdf where they mention how you start off normal then start to slip into watching weird shit
The fact that you can't give yourself a reason would make it difficult for us to answer for you. If I can advise you, looking for reasons is not very helpful, the answers may never be satisfactory. My advice is if it causes you discomfort and pain to stop with all the material, block everything correlated with PMO for a period, without going to look for too twisted psychological reasons behind your searches. It seems obvious to say it, but as time goes by you will have a clearer and awareness mind. Sometimes it is easier to stop than to look for reasons to do so.
YES. cause god forbid if ur wife finds out or if it escalates then there's no coming back. can u discuss with a therapist. maybe not mention the cuckold part, but mention that u have porn addiction.
Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them by David J. Ley https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6937838-insatiable-wives
It's most likely a way of controlling your anxiety about female infidelity. You, like all men, have worries and fears about not being good enough for your woman and having other men take them from you. The way you control this anxiety is by fetishizing the process, your brain uses sexual feelings to ward off the fear and control the situation - if you willingly give up your wife to another man, you are in control, she is no longer being taken from you. To put it in Jungian terms, this fear is part of your shadow, your unconscious mind. The way to deal with it is to bring the unconscious into the conscious, to recognize that you have these fears and anxieties and they are legitimate, but to recognize that they are just that, fears, coming from our primitive minds and not letting the fear control you. Remind yourself that your wife loves you, that you are a man worthy of her love and that this Cuckold stuff is just propaganda designed to feed on your fear. You need to make a conscious choice to step away.
i am not a prude nor have i ever had a girlfriend but i still strongly suggest not to act on it, some fantasy should stay just that but what do i know?
As it should. No one who was mentally right would feel any different consciously about such a thing. Like I said, it's just your unconscious mind playing tricks on you, and very clever propagandists using that to their advantage. You seem strong and I'm sure with work you can move past this feeling.
Try to figure out WHY it appeals to you so much. In my case, I do have a small penis. I am attracted to dominant and/or promiscuous women. I have been cuckolded. So, part of my attraction is that it feels appropriate for me. My life experience suggests that it might be my destiny. Or, it could be that it's simply an unhealthy coping mechanism for dealing with my fears and with the pain of past experiences. Or, if I dig even deeper . . . I see that I have a deeply held shame about my heterosexuality and about desiring women for sex. Since I am not at peace with my God given sexual desires for women . . . I am attracted to dominant women because then I can experience sex (all the better if the woman is smoking hot) and have zero responsibility for it. Doesn't mean its the same for you. But there is something about you that is responding so strongly to this particular fantasy. Ha! I totally read this book . . . so that I could fantasize more about being a cuckold.
I think it has a lot do with low self esteem. She's gonna leave or find someone else anyway so I'll just get it over with. The thing is she loves me and we have a great relationship. This is gonna take some time but day 1 on a 90 day challenge! Abstinence is the priority today. You guys rock.