How did women respond to your ED problem?

Well, if you're dating and having women want to sleep with you, and you're having to find excuses to not sleep with them, it seems you're better off than most guys here and these women do not seem to think you are a loser. If this is the case, this is a nice problem to have. I understand whatever facade you think exists could be shattered by being unable to perform, but I wonder what your goal is with dating? Are you just trying to sleep around, cause it doesn't sound like you might be ready for that. Do you date people close to your friend group and thus fear being exposed? Are you trying to form a relationship? If so, wouldn't you want to find a partner who accepts that fact that you are being proactive to resolve an issue, or a partner who can have sex at your pace and in a way that would help your healing process? I'm not saying vulnerability is the ultimate solution, but it might be worth a shot in the proper circumstance. Apologies if I'm jumping to conclusions or misunderstood something you said.

 

I can speak for some women when I say, if it came down to it and you had ED, the woman would see it more as a problem with her (she didn't turn you on) than a problem with you. Especially if she didn't know or understand the reason for your ED.
Depending on your goals, it may be in the best interest to omit sex from a relationship until you're healed to prevent a misunderstanding from either party. This could also give you a chance to get to know the woman and feel more comfortable with her to reduce any performance anxiety you may have as well. If you feel pressured to have sex, you could always tell her you have to abstain for health reasons, which wouldn't be a false statement.

 

I agree with the above reply. You can tell her that you are abstaining from sex for next few months for health reasons.

Did you speak to someone professional regarding your ED? is it physical or psychological?

 

Dont worry man lifes not a movie, girls are gentle.

Also every of them will blsame themselves for not being too sexy for you and worrying about themselves.

 

I owned up to it and it turned into a funny situation.. lol my first ED experience with a girl I basically told the girl that I was with at the time that the reason I couldn’t get it up is because she’s too damn fine lol

I said it in a joking way and we both laughed even though it made no sense lol I’ve always been open about NoFap (maybe a bit too much in hindsight) with the women I’ve talked to so she was very understanding.

 

I know it was meant as a joke, but this actually makes perfect sense. You're more likely to have performance anxiety if a girl's super hot and you're afraid of disappointing her.

 

My five and a half year relationship ended because my ED was getting worse. At that time I didn't do anything about it and she lost her patience.

Now after four months of no PMO, I started to date and had sex for two times. Two weeks ago it was ok, and last weekend it was bad (ED and PE). She didn't like that and she said that I'm probably not into her, and that she doesn't want to waste her time. I was to embarrassed to tell her the truth, and I'm not sure am I going to see her again.

 

That sucks. I'd have assumed after four months you'd be in the clear.

But then PI is not the only form of ED. Are you stressed out in general? Are you an anxious person?

 

I'm not anxious in general, but I guess I'm stressed out because I'm still not confident about my performance. And that could be a vicious circle.

 

There's therapists for this.

 

I've found a steady routine of meditation to be extremely helpful in dealing with stress as it arises. Just having a quiet, peaceful core that I can operate from when my mind starts acting up.

If you haven't done the mindfulness thing before then "Headspace" is a pretty good place to start.
Also "Alan Watts Teaches Meditation".

 

Feel your pain brother. What do you wish you had done earlier that would have put you in a batter position today. I mean I am starting out, therefore I need all the advice I can gather. As for meditation, yes I am already doing it and do it more often than not. Are you on telegram or skype???