I had a wet dream today... so I guess I'm back to day 1?

you wrong. a wet dream is not a relapse.

 

Actually, it very much is.

 

Wet dreams are a result of chronic and/or excessive masturbation and edging. Also, they are more likely to occur when you embark on a streak of abstinence without getting rid of relevant stimuli. You can read about this in a book called Brain Gain.

 

It is NOT a relapse.
This is a perfectly normal phenomenon, especially amongst adolescent males(females happen to have nocturnal emissions too). Your body constantly produces semen, so while you are on nofap, you are retaining the semen you produce.
This means, that in order to make new semen, your body has to remove the old one, so the nocturnal emission occurrs.

Do not count is as a relapse, go on with your masturbation-free life, instead of thinking about it constantly.
Stay strong

 

Also, use common sense and don't strain yourself over an involuntary body process.
I like to use the rule: Do not apologize, if you haven't done anything wrong - which in this case applies to the nocturnal emission, over which you had no control.

The cause of it may also had been some sexual fantasy before you went to sleep, and if it was so, try to keep your mind off that. Try reading a book, learn something new, think deeply about some issue or interesting concept - whatever you do, keep your mind off sex.

 

It might be caused or triggered by your previous behaviour, it is not your previous behaviour, nor did you do it on purpose. Even though acting out on your addiction is done automatically, it is always on purpose at that time.

As previous writers mentioned, don't be too hard on yourself with wet dreams. Get your mind off it and build a strong life!

 

No, it's not. Not even close. Guys just like to lie to themselves thinking their denial will better their situations. Read my post above. For more, read the book I mentioned.

OP liked my post. I suppose that may just mean I'm onto something. If he's being honest with himself, he knows what's up.

 

To the op, you're fine. Wet dreams aren't a relapse.

Wet dreams do occur as a result of masturbation over a long period of time. The body is used to releasing. Of course, when you abstain, there are ways to prevent wet dreams, but sometimes, the body will just a find a way. Eventually, wet dreams will disappear, and that should be the aim for everyone.

Keep sticking to no PMO, and your body will stop wet dreams eventually. In the meantime, examine your thoughts, keep your body temperature low, lay off sugary foods, don't drink before bed, and be careful about how you position your body on your bed and against your blanket. These things can help prevent wet dreams.

Good luck, and keep going!

 

To the OP: trust your instincts and always go with your gut. You shouldn't need to feel the need to come here for this. A streak isn't important; habit building is what matters. NoFap should be about learning how to overcome addiction, not forcefully stay away from it for as many hours as possible in some vain attempt to fake "progress" so you can fool yourself and impress a bunch of randoms.

 

Anything it happen that is not affected by your will is not a relapase. You cant control what you dream so is not a relapse. Relapse is going back to your old habits of PMO, giving up everything. Even if you masturbate and then you come back quickly isnt a relapse, just a reset. But what happend to you isnt even a reset. So chill bro, this types of dreams are normal when you are trying to overcome an addiction.

 

It's a result of what you've done or been doing. Therefore, it was in your control but no longer is. Stimuli play a huge role in wet dreams, too. You guys should really try to learn a thing or two before presenting your opinions as facts. Wet dreams are NOT normal in any way. You're just lying to yourselves and others. Have a nice day.

 

You don't count wet dreams as a relapse. They are natural to recovery, and your brain is rewiring sexual imagery, while your male biology is balancing itself. This is a good thing. Only voluntary PMO are relapses, not healthy involuntary acts of the mind/body. In fact, if you try to repress wet dreams, that unhealthy stuffing away may just spring back out in other undesired urges and behaviors at inopportune times, making recovery even more difficult or impossible.

 

Wet dreams are also not even a violation of semen retention, for those striving for that. One hardly unloads fully during wet dreams (as you said you noticed only a wet spot). The body needs to discharge aged sperm and old semen and replace it. This discharge can happen via wet dreams, leakage into bladder, reabsorption into the body, or healthy sexual activity. None of these are resets or relapses. It's natural male biological functioning. Men really should understand their own biology. It's a critical piece of knowledge for recovery.

 

Why are you being so hostile?

There's many of us who've also read books, listened to me, devoured material on Nofap, and issues like wet dreams over the years. If you think we're all wrong, then fine, it's your opinion, but chill your beans man. By the way, you're presenting your opinions as facts by saying wet dream are not normal in any way. That's disputed, and is therefore an opinion.

 

Good post! Agitation and hostility are among the types of symptoms that can result from repressing sexual energy in inappropriate ways (repression popping up via unexpected assault, urges, ticks, side effects, inopportune drives, moodiness, etc.), rather than channeling sexual energy in healthy ways (sublimation). Ask a trained psychologist.

 

My beans are chilled, man. I've been around these forums for years and it's observations like "wet dreams are normal" that have kept me and so many others in a hole. Instead of researching further, maybe picking up the book I recommended in this very thread, you're arguing that the matter is disputed among people who know no better. Wet dreams have been mentioned in medical literature for at least a century at this point. Before all scientists, researchers and doctors were being paid off by Big Pharma and the porn industry, the truth was out there.

See, the difference between what I've written here and what most of the rest of you have written is simple. I'm suggesting that OP has more work to do, more things to change before he can start to recover and see measurable, meaningful results. Many of you seem to be of the opinion that he's just fine and should carry on doing what he's doing as if his wet dreams will magically vanish despite the fact that he 1. has done significant damage to himself by way of excessive PMO/edging AND/OR 2. is continuing to be stimulated whether he's aware of it or not.

In any case, there's no hostility here. I'm passionate about the subject and that's about it. You're welcome to disagree as that doesn't phase me.

My point here is to try to help the OP.

 

While you're at it, you might as well go ask a trained psychologist about porn and masturbation. I'd love to know what they tell you.

 

BTW, congrats on 21 days, otherwise known as the gravity zone, which you seem to be climbing out of. As you succeed from now onward, this is some serious evidence that your recovery streak is not just by chance (as even the worst addict, not trying to recover, needs to give his willy a rest - anywhere from 1 to 3 weeks, where the gravity of addiction always pulls the addict back in). When climbing out of the gravity zone, one knows that it is not just by chance alone, but there's behaviors you are taking and valid recovery tools that you are using that are working. Best wishes on your journey.

 

Well, that much is true, too, but they (psychological profession) think they draw a line between casual usage and serious addictive use where one's life is impeded in negative ways. Personally, I have a higher bar for myself, but modern psychology also has much valuable insight on tools for behavior modification and insights of the destructive nature of sexual repression in negative ways. Knowledge of these tools helped me recover and brought me to an amazing stage of freedom from PMO addiction. By the way, there are partitioners in psychology who also proport a higher bar, rather than the mainstream, secular humanistic psychology as advocated by the APA.