I'm kinda stressed out... I was scrolling through Instagram then saw a video where a girl wearing a VR headset was acting in sex position and moaning etc.. but she was not naked... Also i didn't masturbate or anything but after i watched the clip I started to realize whether it was a relapse or not... Fucking chill down my spine and anxiety all over the place... Did i just relapse?
I doubt if most members would have considered that a relapse. So I would say no. For myself, personally, I would reset my counter because it's against my boundaries to have Instagram altogether. But everyone's got to make their own boundaries for themselves.
I think everyone has to set their own rules for a relapse. My rules say it is a relapse when I actively seek out and watch porn. If i come across something on Instagram and watch for a second and then scroll past it, I would not count it as a relapse.
Does reset mean, i have to do everything all over again??? Guess all my process from years of nofap has gone wasted... I wanna fucking kill myself now
@saddist_adult , I don't think you've set your boundaries clear enough to be able to call it a relapse or reset. Although some on NoFap choose to make YouTube a boundary, and I respect that, I allow myself access as long as I keep it in restricted mode. But sometimes, it doesn't always protect me from available videos showing up that would be triggering. If such a video as you described would show up on my stream, I would simply select that I'm not interested in such content and YT stops recommending that stuff. Case closed. I move on. And I don't reset my counter. Did you MB to the material? It sounds like you didn't. Instead, you talked about it here. That's a good thing. I would have been triggered to stumble on that. I can't say I would have handled that perfectly every time. But it's progress, not perfection. And seems like you're showing progress as well.
My only set of rules are no nudity, actual porn and masturbating... Despite you told me that i have to reset , guess i have reset my 4 years process...
not in my book . what you have done though is spark the fire in other words you are setting yourself up for a fall. hey no judgment nature and hormones are hard. and today porn is everywhere. the way i see it though is a peek is better than going all the way and pmoing to porn and worse binging . its a sign though , one i think most people struggle to conquer. in an ideal world i would be a billionaire live in a fully automated eco bubble with built in pool steam room sauna and gym . anytime i get urges gym and soak in a freezing cold shower or swimming pool . cold showers at 2 am myt be bit conspicuous in a shared apartment
