Hi everyone. I have seen some threads with problems regarding ED or PIED, but I have never seen one about PE. Can someone clear this up for me? Is premature ejaculation fixable? If so, how and how deep in the rebooting process. I would want to know because this is becoming a problem.Lasting maybe more than 2-3 mins is a huge deal if I want to start a relationship with a woman. Cheers. Rey
Squeeze your PVC muscle numerous times daily and hols for a few seconds. It is the muscle you use to hold in your pee.
Underneath you. To find it when you go pee stop it mid stream. The muscle you just used for that is the same muscle. Strengthen it and squeeze it if you feel like you are getting off too early.
No, really, it's not. Sex is not how you start a relationship. If you get into a relationship and get to the point where you have sex and then she leaves you because you can only last 2-3 minutes then it wasn't real anyway. There are more ways to get a girl off then penetration though, simply do that before you enter. Kegels may work, idk haven't tried them. But once you start having sex with a partner you will begin to last longer and longer with that same person. Also as you get older you will most likely start to last longer (I am assuming you are pretty young)
Yes, I'm still young, but sex isn't in my mind right now, It just crossed me. But the fact that I have this problem scares me. I hope it gets fixed while I go through this.
Premature Ejaculation is more of a mental issue. You need to calm down and forget about finishing too soon as if it's the end of the world. The only way to get over it is practice. You could also try doing oral on your GF or using a sex toy on her to make her close to orgasm or maybe orgasm at least once before you enter her.
I agree with the methods Going super saiyan mentioned above. There are strong proven methods to control PE during sex, they have cured me. Here are a few to start with: Slow yourself way, way down, and even slower than that. Practice deep, deep breathing. Breath into your balls. Look up Tantric yoga There are other methods I won't mention that might break the NoFap rules because they may be triggers to some, but they work for me.
@Going super saiyan and @Kangaroo Thanks for the tips, but like I said, I'm still young to those things, It just crossed my mind, but now that you mentioned it, I really need to do meditation to calm my nerves and maybe use the calmness that comes with it whilst having intercourse with the GF or wife in the future maybe. Is 19 young to you? Anyways, thanks for the replies, now I know it's not a health issue, but more of just a mindset.
The contraction of the ischiocavernous muscle (one that compose the pelvic floor) seems to help in those situation. Those are named kegel's exercise. There are lots of variants: gooogle it and you will know. Anyway be careful because if you over train your muscle it can be damaged just like an athlete can damage his muscles. Then if not properly done they can be harmful instead of helping. Personally i had that problem sometimes even before penetration and that was embarassing. What i found very helpful in this situation was: 1)relax yourself and enjoy the situation without other thoughts: if you start to fear the intercorse then you'll more likely not to enjoy it and have a PE episode. 2)completely focus not to you, but on your partner's pleasure. I have noticed that if your goal is to make your girl feel good then the emotion builded during sex and pre-sex are very comfort able and then you won't get anxious (i think in fact that anxiety is the major cause of this problem)
Thanks man, I forgot you're a med. student, thanks for clearing it man. I will keep this tips and tricks in mind when tht time comes.
Yep, I get excited really easily, just like @Kangaroo and @Going super saiyan said, calm myself and just take it slow, I mean really slow. I could go a long way.
Maybe thinkings about a PE episode as not such a big deal is also helpful. The secret stays behind how you set your brain: the more you are relaxed and the more you live the moment without any other thoughts (just like when you try to meditate) the more you'll enjoy it and she will enjoy too.
Yeah, That's why I'll try meditation more and more now, it doesn't only increase focus and calmness, but it gives a massive boost on your disposition for the whole day.
Use a condom with a gel for a long lasting effect for the first orgasm to give a pleasure to the girl that she deserves and then your next orgasm will come late enough naturally.
I suffer with PE, when I had gf, firstly she made me handjob and after that we waited for 5 min and then I was totally ok to perform 10min+. It's quite embarrassing having sex with new girl she need to understand first my situation... that sucks