Hey guys, so this is my second challenge on NoFap. I registered about 1 year ago to quit my bad habit, and also did a 30 days challenge, but i didn't manage to persevere. Now that i'm back on this website, i am really motivated to stay clean for at least 60 days! I've tried so many times to quit but it just didn't work. Every day i'm watching porn, mastrubating, day-dreaming, just thinking about sex, girls, porn and stuff. My brain is full of this sh*t. I'm disgusted with myself. I feel how porn and mastrubation are destroying my life. My self esteem is lower than ever, i can't concetrate on things and i'm just completely unstatisfied with my life. I want to feel vivid and more manly again. Today was the last time i've PMOed, so from now on things are going to change. Please give me as much advices as possible, I need your help because I really want to get rid of my addiction. I know this will be a tough time, maybe the hardest 60 days of my life. But I have to do this. And i will be successful. Please feel free to join me, i'm sure this will give me more motivation, especially when the urge gets extremely strong. This is my last hope. April 28, 2016 - NoFap day #1 - Let the war begin...
You can do it! There are many successful people that failed miserable numerous times before they finally hit it big. And PMO is no different. Keep getting back up. Stay in the fight. Don't let P win regardless how hard you are being hit. We believe in you.
@Luuciano I have been on this site for about 2 years now and I have still not beaten this addiction...at least not yet.All I can say is if you feel like giving up,don't!Believe in yourself like others have believed in you.You have nothing to lose,while beating this addiction is hard,it is certainly not impossible.
Don't be too hard on yourself. Understand that PMO addiction is a mental disease; something which is not in your control atm. You just have to keep on trying and keep on learning from every relapse. There are no shortcuts. I have gone past 60 days 2 days back and yes these were the hardest days of my life BUT worth every pain of it. Take one day at a time. Don't just shoot for 60 days if you can't go 2-3 weeks. Go for a week first and then other week and so on. Come up with a plan. Write a journal, get an accountability partner, talk to someone you can trust, work out everyday, meditate everyday, get professional help if you can't do it on your own. If you are not ready to do these, recovery is not possible. Recovery has to be earned; it doesn't come off easily.
Hi @Luuciano, You are way ahead of where I was 30 years ago. I know that at 18 I felt super charged, some times I still do (you kids get off my lawn). Each day will get easier if you have a plan and stick to it. Find some hobbies you enjoy that distract you, not something that keeps you parked at your computer or game system. From your photo I would assume you like basketball, find a group that you can play with. I did better when I found something to do that I got more satisfaction from than PMO, because PMO always ended with guilt and shame. Anyway, you are not on your own. Keep fighting.
Good luck bro, May each breath exhale the most urgent and striking difficulties, and each inhale create space for the hard work that turns into confidence that one can survive. Once you have got momentum, more inspiration Will Spring from the trust in your endurance. Some advice would be to prepare for the tough Moments by choosing a few songs that mean a lot to you, and update your defense constantly.
Thank you guys so much! I appreciate every single advice from you, and i'm glad that this forum exists, and that there are so many people who understand my problems and support me. Today im about to hit the gym again, and im totally happy about it, cause i didnt manage to workout the last days because of PMO. It always took my motivation away. But not today. I hope i can persevere. And i wish that for you guys too
Luciano I just read all the excellent comments and advice from people who have been thru this hell. I have not much to add except that IT CAN BE DONE. At first it looks like it is going to be impossible, but day by day it gets a bitt easier. Keep away from all triggers. You already tried once. Now you are giving yourself a second chance, take advantage of it. Make strong resolutions and by all means find a AP who you can communicate with daily. Also keep on writing and get a counter.
@incredulo thanks bro! When i feel weak again, i just visit this website. You guys are amazing! It's a damn good feeling to know that there are several people who believe in you, even though they don't know you @Cheburashka totally the truth! It was the best decision i made today to go to the gym again! I knew that i'd relapse if i stayed at home, watching tv or smth. I have absolutely no regrets Day #1 is almost finished, had a few urge attacks, but they were manageable. I feel good. Hope i can keep this motivation for the upcoming days and weeks
YES! One day at the time. You worry only about today, staying away from any triggers. Tomorrow will be another day. If you make it today, tonight you will feel better.
There were many of game lost in the last seconds of regulation play. Stay strong until the end. And tomorrow, we will celebrate with you another day to fight and win. Proud of you bro!
@incredulo @Cheburashka You're right i shouldn't celebrate so early. The journey is still long. I remember one time a nofapper told me: "Sometimes the snake lies hidden in the grass quiet and pretending to be dead when all it is doing is getting ready to strike." We should always be prepared for unexpected urge attacks.
First three 3 days are the hardest, after that it's cruise mode for most. Just battle through. Don't be beta
So day #2 is finally over. Today was a busy day for me, therefore i didn't have any time to even think about MPO. What a great day. Tomorrow is gym day again! Hope i can persevere further.