Really inspiring to read this and to know that long-term abstinence is possible. One of my friends in another recovery program always jokes with folks on their anniversaries/birthdays: "Congrats on 6 years! I have it on good authority that the 7th year is the hardest, so keep coming back!"
Bro, you are the boss of all bosses. I know exactly what you're talking about. You appreciate life for what it actually is, not what it virtually is. You know the true meaning of life. You're a role model to all of us. 6 years bro. Respect. Keep counting.
6 Years mark, I am already seeing myself hitting that mark 6 years from now, after all, I have put my mindset to move on from this activity. From all the failures, you learn something about yourself and how to actually move on from the activity. Thank you for sharing this and giving us all word of encouragement that it's possible.
Hey @BrianHM, Keep that vision firm in your mind. You can live a life that is bigger than the self-destruction of porn. Life is meant to be lived and not endured while we hide ourselves away and view porn.
I'm afraid that yes...I do....I fantasize about seducing certain women ...my wife included...but nothing kinky...by just being next to them....uh....nude...um...well, that's about it.
This is just beautiful I'm really happy for you and your girl (wife, i think?) Congratulations, you are a real inspiration
Hey @feo1966, No, I don't. I have been pretty rigorous in "taking every thought captive". I can't say that it was right at the beginning that I got this under control, but pretty early. I would also say that it wasn't ever a big issue. Hope that answers the question.
This is a sensational story, thanks for your strength it gives us all believe that we can also do the same, amazing..
Congratulation on being porn free for so long. Does that mean you have not masturbated for that long, too? I have to say I would like to be able to masturbate in moderation (once or twice a week) but not need to rely on porn for stimulation.
holy shit. I'm 27 and I thought I could never recover since my first exposure to porn at 12 yrs. Thanks for your story bro!
Hey @Alex Cooper, Have not masturbated either. Of course, I am married and that is a much better experience.
I am also married but find my sexual appetite is greater than my wife's. Masturbation a couple times a week helps to relieve sexual tension. To me, most important is not becoming obsessed by masturbating several times per day and relying on porn in order to complete it.
H Hey jfromcr, Congratulation for big victory. 6 years its big success. I am also working to break this habit for life time (specific time is 10 years), I know abstaining from these habits completely for life time seems over ambitious goal but that's how i live, I am extremely ambitious person when I find something that is really important for me I fight for it until I get no matter what. I am 22 years old and I'm virgin,( I don't have plan to get married, may be after 8 or 10 years I get married and yes I will have sex with my wife after marries.) Thanks for shaking my false believe about porn and masturbation that's its not possible to abstain from these habits such as 6,7 years old. Keep on updating us about your success because you are leader for those people who want abstain from these habits for longer time such 6,10 or even life time free from Masturbation and porn. For those who want to abstain for longer period of time: Never lower your arm keep on fighting until you reach. Be a warrior. Indure the pain, if you fail its ok stand up again and start again until you win the battle.
Jfromer....good job....I can see that there are no long term effects from abstinence ....it is my goal to stop all of the above, but if my wife wants sex....she is 67. Had hysterectomy about 15 years ago....that's when the sex stopped....but maybe she might want it if I refrain for a long time.....anyway, it will be great either way, because the benefits out way the ( I can't think of the word).... Thanks for the encouragement !
Oh My GOSH ! This is Miracle ! Unchallengeable ! Incredible ! I feel I would just Faint here on my laptop. I was searching for a competition and you just proved me an ineligible candidate. Man! Hats Off to you !