aaaaahaha u just had to touch down there huh.Well buddy ive been there.....many times but after the last try, i took note of the experience and kept it in mind. its like i recorded it to make sure i dont redo that shit ...so everytime im about to fap some shots out, ill be like "remember that temporary feeling which eventually made u feel like shit because u lost a streak ur now going to repeat.....again and again? well son, DO IT AGAIN and see how pathetic u are at controlling yourself" and yup...im like nope nope nope ill find something better to do
Hey Ashe, I am not 100% certain but I think if you click on a counter, it will forward you to a code that you copy in the message box at the end. You might have to login through google + or something before being able to access the code. Give it a try. And please don't hesitate to correct me if I'm mistaken. A bit new here.
i guess you are right .. but it doesn't let me to put a signature yet i think i need 1 more like or something.
no signature..that's weird you should be able to copy and paste the link it generates into the bottom of your signature. As you see I have done
Day 14 .. i had strong urges yesterday but i have conquered it "A year from now you will wish you had started today" .
Yeah, Same here. Since I'm new to the community, it's informing me that I need to have more likes and wait a couple of days before I am able to post the Counter (it considers the counter as picture and I apparently don't have the privilege to post pictures yet)
You are not late at all! The fact that you are here now puts you right on time. There are 78 days remaining in this year for you to claim!
I looked, for just a second I looked. I typed something I knew would.. hit google images and looked so I'm resetting my counter because I don't want to be always nearly falling off the cliff I want to be safely on the road and moving forward. Annoyed but honest. Damm I'm days behind again now. I need to start exercising too.
+1 @stephanD @Saqib God will forgive you if you forgive yourself. No culpability is needed toward the creator. He's above all of that. Actually, deep inside you are already as good as he is because you are (we all are) a part of him. You just have to do your best, truly and sincerely. What's dangerous is hurting your selfesteem consciously.
@StraightEdge I couldn't agree more. You shouldn't feel guilty towards God or anybody else for that matter. This is one big conclusion I had in the last week. I've always been the kind of person that is always on the defensive, it usually takes a while before I can trust someone I just met, etc. What I can see now is that it's nothing more than me judging that person. "Is this person trustworthy?" And I believe that has a huge correlation with me judging myself. I have a really perfectionist behavior with my work, passions, etc. Thoughts of not being good enough are common, and that is just judgment towards myself. I read a couple of books, watched tons of videos on youtube in the past years about working on your self-esteem, being more confident, not caring about what others think, etc. But what I figured out this week, while thinking about all of this, is that I care too much of what others think of me simply because I'm usually the one judging others actions or my actions, so they're allowed to judge me too. I usually try to do the right things, I consider myself an honest person, I care about people, etc. But that doesn't mean I'm not judging. Actually caring about people is a little contradictory for me, because usually the people I care about the most are the people that I judge the most. For example, my sister is thinking of opening a store, I believe she doesn't have enough money or expertise to do it, so instead of saying "If you think you're ready, go for it!", I'd say stuff like "Don't do it, you will probably lose money now. I'd try it next year." Even though in the second phrase I'm probably caring more about her money so she doesn't lose it, I'm also judging more. I mean, if she wants to do it and believe it will work out, who am I to give unwanted advice? And if it doesn't work out, I'll try to be there for here, instead of judging again and saying "I told you so." The daily judgement towards people I don't know would be something like seeing a guy speeding in the highway, the thinking something like "This guy's such a dumbass, what if he kills someone?" When today I'd try to think more like "What if this dude was really having an emergency? Who am I to judge?". I really don't know, he could actually be a douche bag, but I can't figure that out from what I've seen in just a couple of seconds, so giving the benefit of the doubt is the way to go, instead of thinking that everybody is a potential enemy. So this week I tried to be more relaxed, I tried not to judge small things, tried to see the good side on everything, not being suspicious about everyone, and what came to me as an epiphany or whatever is this: If you're not judging others, you're also not allowing anyone to judge you (not even yourself). What I can see as an outcome of this is that I'm way less anxious with my work, less anxious around people, I'm not blaming myself for things I've said or done, I'm not overthinking so much, and as a result, people seem to be more open because of all that. Probably many of you are not as judgmental/perfectionist as I am/was raised, but if you are, this "inoffensive and caring" judgment towards others or yourself, is something that is worth removing of your daily habits. Live and let live! Cheers!
Don't despair, my friend. So many guys here, especially myself, have reset many times. The rule isn't that we be perfect right away. The only rule is that we continue struggling. So long as you keep struggling, you are making progress, as we all are. With every streak of success, we get that much stronger for the next. Go!
May not be able to hit 90 days but a challenge until the end of the year sounds great to me. Visited the site a couple times but first time signing up, officially rebooting, etc. Appreciative of all you guys do for each other!
