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What has helped for me and has helped for others on this site as well:

• Make a little mission statement of why you want to stop with the PMO. Why are you doing it?? If you feel discouraged, read your mission statement again
• Do it for the sake of being honest with yourself and making a commitment. It will build your self-esteem
• Stay away from dating sites and Facebook and Instagram and other triggers, at least for a while. It is possible. You can do it!

 

i have set myself up a punishment/reward system that seems to be working although i am only on day 5 (this is my longest streak since i was 12 though). basically what i do is i bite my thumbs as a sort of mind-shocker (not to the point where i draw blood but on the painful part of the nail if i get an urge) then i do 20 push ups 20 sit ups and 20 squats. if i still feel like PMO i repeat. I actually wear myself down to the point where i really dont want anything other than a rest and a glass of iced water. im not sure how long I can keep this up for or even how mentally beneficial it is but the physical punishment is rewarding me with what i know i desire deep down.

As a sufferer of PIED you need to know that it doesn't go away if you just stick to the status quo. nearly 5 years ive recognised i had the issue and kept convincing myself it was just a blip. what made me finally realise i needed to change was when even during some borderline NSFL viewing material i would randomly droop or i would be fapping for 3 hours without release and suffering multiple droops during the session. extreme deathgripping/banding and use of different materials such as nylon/socks to maintain or change the sensation wasnt enough and i was begining to get thoughts about crossing into the illegal/taboo to help get off.

im not suggesting this is the route you are likely to go down if you continue as you are, but everything we currently know about the mechanism of addiction points to something similar.

so my advice to you good sir is: There is no time like the present. You are surrounded by brothers in these forums who are here to help and will gladly step up. And you know that your body is your own, you just need to own it

i hope the good fight is a fruitful one brother, peace love and light to you

 

You should take small steps, make small goals and just keep capitalizing off of them. for example, make a 3 day NoFap goal... than a week NoFap goal, than 2 weeks and so on and so on. But before doing that, you should have a genuine purpose on why you should stop in the first place... it can be about anything but it should be something meaningful deep within you and the rest will follow.

P.S. keeping away from computers,phones,tv,etc. helps a-lot and going outdoors for the day works wonders... just some food for thought. Good Luck .

 

Have you considered installing internet filters on your computer/phone? They're not perfect, but they can give you an extra few minutes to reconsider what you're doing. K9 is free for Mac or PC, Net Nanny costs money but is better and works on the phone too.

Also, it helped me to make a plan, in advance, for what I'd do if I felt like I was slipping. Start a few steps before you're actually in the thick of it, and be specific about the action and the response. Like, "if I go to unzip my pants and it's not specifically to pee, I have to immediately go for a walk outside." Helped me in any case.

There's a free app called rtribe that's helped me as well.

 

All of the above advice is spot on, and I would also add downloading the NF Companion app on your phone to keep a track of days you don't masturbate, when you relapse and you can also keep a journal on the app of your thoughts and feelings. It's really helped me dude. Good luck

 

You got to recondition your brain of dealing with the stressors I think just doing that and following the comments above you should be fine. For that first week nofap was my ig,facebook, etc.. it kept me mentally occupied. Some of the stories that I read was so deep, and I felt honored to share my opinion with these individuals. After your first few days of no PMO you HAVE to tell your brain "I can't go back there anymore" the more you tell your brain that statement, your brain will save that comment to whenever the urges come because that's what it had associated it with, the urges. It could be any comment it's whatever works best for you. Some people use "it's not in my best interest to PMO" so whatever works best for you. This addiction is conquerable so don't worry you'll come through. #bet