Don't get me wrong, i don't mean don't thinking about PORN, i mean thinking about SEX. In my opinion, there is a whole world between porn and sex. L'm out of masturbation for 13 days so far, and of porn for a month. Porn isn't on my mind anymore, i didn't touched myself, edging or anything. Still, sometimes i think about it, but l'm not aroused at all, i think about it like ''Damn, i used to like this sh*t', i sucks''. But i sometimes somes randoms romantic fantasy (about girls that i know) with a little of sex involved shows up in my mind, how l'm supposed to avoid this ?? Thoses tought makes me feel good, a bit dreamy, they remember me how bad i want somebody to love... I mean, this is wrong to think about porn, i agree, but thinking about sex is just human isn't it? How do you do ?
The harder that you try to not think about something, the more it pops up into your thoughts. The only way is to actively think about something else. Yes, we will think about sex; teenagers do about once every 7 seconds. You can work on controlling how you think about it, and change channels when it is inappropriate, like porn. Yes, we should think about sex before it happens, or we could find ourselves in bed with our new wife ignorant about what is happening. We want to know what to do next before we get there, so we think. That doesn't mean we think like actors in porn; do not worry about camera angles.
I couldn't agree more, but l've read almost everywhere here that you have to avoid thinking about sex while rebooting, and i don't know how to do such a thing Porn is out of my mind, but sex still here and i don't know how to kick it out Worst, sometimes i remember that ''Rule'' while l'm lost in my fantasmas and i feel like l'm doing something wrong
Okay, thanks for the tip, l'm gonna do my best L'm gonna read your other one on my ''Mood swings thread'', see you there
You can't "kick it out" that sexual desire is good. It means you are alive and your biological parts are working and that you're not a eunuch. You just want to make sure you don't waste that desire on PMO.
It is going to pop up often, but you do not have to turn it into a full length feature when it does. You certainly do not forget about sex during your reboot, but you should learn to control how you think about it, and how much time you spend thinking about it. Being controlled by your fantasies and sexual dreams may be a step up from a porn addiction, but it is not freedom.
Don't avoid that. Those types of thoughts are normal and natural. It actually is a good sign that your body is doing what it is supposed to be doing. Don't beat yourself up. Just cuz you quit porn doesn't mean you aren't a dude.
I read an analogy once. How difficult is it to hold a glass of water? the answer: it depends on the time for which we have to hold the glass. i guess it's the same with thinking about sex. if we do it for a long time then it's not rebooting the brain. the brain is addicted to pmo, so some abstaining is needed.
You are men. Our brains are wired for sex. Nothing wrong with thinking about it , its how you a t on it and how much you let it consume you. Thinking about it is healthy. Obsessing about it is not
I think those thoughts are normal and thinking about sex. If your goal is no PMO then just do not act upon those thoughts if you know what I mean.
Having thoughts pop into your head isn't a problem, but entertaining sexual fantasies, even small ones, renews the neural pathways you are trying to get rid of. Just shoving them out of your head is rarely effective, so the key is to take control. When your thoughts begin to go in a bad direction, alter the daydream so that the girl says goodbye to you, hops in a car, and drives away. Then take it from there. Maybe a meteor strikes, maybe dinosaurs attack, maybe you have a conversation with a male friend about one of your interests/complaints, etc. Suppression leads to failure, redirection leads to success and happiness.