So this Asian girl commented on a photo of me on twitter saying I look cute. In her defense, she is very attractive. After a while we followed each other and started talking. Now I think she's keen on calling each other etc. and I'm a pretty realistic person, and since we live thousands of miles apart, nothing will come of this so i feel like I need to slow it down or stop it before it gets serious. Any advice on this kind of thing?
Be honest with her. Just say exactly what you told us: that you think she's very attractive and sweet, but that realistically there's no chance of this turning into a relationship because she's on the other side of the world, and that you're looking for a mate who's a bit more geographically desirable.
That's respectable ... but look at it this way: telling her the truth is much nicer than stringing her along, only to inevitably break the news to her several months from now. Honesty right here, right now is the most compassionate path.
Well when I say slow it down, what i really mean is stop it completely. I mean, we only started talking yesterday so it makes sense to tell her how things are early on.
I think you worry too much. . . Severe contact if needs be, but trust me, she won't care one bit. Girls only get interested when you've made significant emotional and physical investments. Chatting via twitter is nothing trust me.
You can be a straight forward on the complement. But if you're planning to have some kind of relationship with her, I don't think that would stand a chance. Only if you watch too many romantic love movies and are willing to go far away on your titanic to other part of the world for your Repunzel. Lol
Exactly, realistically nothing can happen here so it just makes sense to let her know and just check that she knows that
That is very true. I always over complicate things I think she will be fine, she has said herself that she felt it was weird just messaging me randomly. It'll be fine
Passing glances. Direct eye contact though would be her moving too fast and grounds to seek advice on breaking contact. If she makes eye contact and says "hi" then it's clear she's looking to get married.
What....what makes you say you need it to stop? Right now this is a few messages, you're not adopting a child! Why kill it before it can go anywhere?
No, I'm not saying I want it to stop, I'm just saying I don't want her to get the wrong idea (which she did do yesterday when she asked me if we were ever going to date).