Hello all. I have found NoFap to be a very useful tool and along with other changes in my life I have become an extremely confident, fun and all around great guy. (My fetishes also went away, with assistance from a psycologist) I am meeting up with a girl in the next few days and we are likely gonna have sex. Now I have obviously not ejaculated for a long time and I am still pretty much a virgin. I am very nervous I will prematurely ejaculate/disappoint. What is the best way to handle this situation?
Congrats man, honestly my best advice for premie, is just go slow and mentally focus on her instead of focusing on your own pleasure. But even if you do, there's always round two
Foreplay is underrated, spend a good amount of time lightly touching, playing, etc. From what I understand, this is rare and most girls love it. It also settles the nerves! Get in a comfortable position, vary the speed (you can tease and make a game out of this too...), and remember you can always pause and go at your own pace. Going slow is also underrated. If it finishes quickly, a nice 'sorry, I was a bit excited' should go down well. There's no shame, and you've basically said she's incredibly hot... Good luck bud
You will be premature for sure if you have not ejaculated in 120 days. Just because you have finished it does not mean sex is done. You have many ways to please her
Good advice. Foreplay is a guys best weapon during sex. If you get a girl excited enough she will probably finish before you. After 120 days going again should be no problem anyway.
Agreed man, I can't remember where I read it but there were some surveys or studies done a few years ago on this. Summed up as girls complaining that 90% of guys want to rush sex, and don't have much interest in foreplay. I think there was meant to be a correlation to porn use, no surprise there I guess. This is probably one gift from PMO. By that I mean we realise how it effects us, and once we get over it we can become the guys that girls seem to have trouble finding these days.