I really am trying to find a way to be consistent. I find I always go on great runs followed by a relapse and a binge ----> low point -----> re-cycle. I wish I didn't relapse on Saturday. But I could've controlled the 3 that came after that. I feel like a totally different person again. Where has my passion gone? I want to feel the way I do when I abstain always. But is that realistic. How do I find equilibrium? Hoping to get back on track.
Hey man, I'm new to the nofap website but I can relate to your position. What causes your relapses? When I look back at all the times I have relapsed i can usually see that I've set myself up to fail. I think - 'hmm, a little bored now, I'll just have a little look at something for 5 minutes, or I'll send a message to someone...' and then hours later, when it's dark and I've skipped dinner or other things I was going to do I O and feel angry and unsatisfied and guilty. So, I think part of the key for me is to not set myself up that way. And to think about all the other activities I enjoy and thing I want to learn. Or either just call a friend. If I called a friend every time I wanted to look at porn I'd have such strong friendships with my mates! I don't know, maybe you can take something from that? What were you passionate for before your relapse?
