My problem : M and fantasising with mind (I can stay away from porn but recently watched it "assists") I have tried rebooting this year from Jan to June I didn't M much as I had a gf and had viagra sex with her... June - had some day 10 day streaks of nofap July - Aug - fapping 4/5 times a day... losing weight appetite gone getting stomach cramps... I have realised when I dont fap for a little while I continue but its just a LITTLE temptation and BANG you continue fapping.... I have played the following game against myself and aimed for 100% but this was for real women; Avoided conversation: 3 Avoided stare: 107 Avoided thoughts: 22 Avoided relapse: 12 Did not avoid convo: 2 Did not avoid stare: 14 a 5 days 90% Start of July and August i wanted to stop fap... today it would have been either 30-60 day nofap...but oh no Any help appreciated please
What do you mean avoided conversation? Like good thing you did or bad thing you avoided it? And with who?
Good thing. Just girls - random or ones i know. When i say avoid i mean like flirt / dirty / chat them up... because then i will get imaginative and creative in my mind you see.... It's funny and odd i know. The reason i did this was because rather than count days and be like "oh only day 3 or day 12" then you relapse because days are much longer and 90 days is long. So i thought rather count something else...which helps ie objectifying
So if you are out in the world and don't avoid them you can't help yourself but to flirt/dirty/ chat them up? You can't have a normal conversation with them? Sorry just trying to get the facts. If that is true then the only way that is possible is if someone else is telling you what to do. You must have discipline when talking to them.
No thats fine you gotta talk to fix things up... That's not my intention... it happens naturally... its also a two way thing... I am attractive (not being big headed) and do get attention from women. I am confident in talking etc however when I dont fap for a while i get even more confidence and attention... So that's why i prefer to keep my head low and keep it simple if that makes sense? But lately i not been doing my challenge of avoidance... I shall start again tomorrow as today has been day one of nofap
While you are doing this challenge of avoidance, I believe you should take an introspective look of yourself to figure out why you like to chat up women and flirt with them. I understand it can be exciting, I'm not bad looking myself and definitely get attention since I do mma too. Are you still with your gf? If so ask yourself how you would react if you saw her being flirty with some guy.
No gf now. It helps having one. Well it did help me. .. had more sex than fap even though it was 90% without any sensitivity for me...