You have diagnosed your own condition - PIED - you have a drug-like addiction to porn that has messed with the chemical responses in your brain. Too much dopamine has numbed your normal senses. You've not crossed the point of no return, although I don't know how far the old drug adage is true for PMO: once an addict, always an addict. You'll certainly need to actively steer clear of porn for the rest of your life. Which is a good thing anyway. Your equipment still works. You just need to rewire your brain to send it the appropriate signals at the appropriate time. Try hard mode noFAP for 30 days and see how it goes. On the relationship side you need to find a way to keep the focus away from your PIED. It will not help. Having your wife on board will help a lot, as I'm sure this has caused her some disappointment, and she maybe is blaming herself for not being sexy enough or some other reason. Good luck.
The side effects of excessive PMO will definitely fade away through the time if you abstain from Porn for quite a while. I recommend you to put aside all kinds social media(I eliminated my Instagram page permanently). Meditate daily.that is the best way to keep control of your mind and be aware of your feelings. Write down daily journals and keep track of your progress everyday. Neural pathways of your addiction will be broken if you stop indulging in this addiction for some time(at least 90 days). Participate in on of @2525 challenges and talk to members everyday. It's also a good idea to have a accountability partner but it might not be necessary since you have a wife and you can talk to her anytime you want. GOOD LUCK MATE AND WELCOME!
No P period and nothing sexual for a month. I’d suggest 5 grams of L arginine a day to help restore your blood flow in the area. Learn to pleasure your wife sexually with body parts other than your penis.
Great tip! Diet plays a hugh part on a erection as well, eat almonds and bananas for sex drive. Also, drink green tea and take L-citrulline powder (amazing for erections). Keep on NoFap, it will get a lot better!
About 5 grams 30 minutes before sex works best for me (Can work with less, look at the instructions and take less than that if you want)
Thanks a lot guys! Ever since I've been here, I've felt a repulse from cuckold porn or any other porn for that matter. I'll be honest. It's still early days and I've been to porn sites after I joined NoFap but this time I felt a repulse and I felt like I wasn't interested. Usually im sucked into it like an addict but this time i felt different. It seemed to me something not important and i didn't feel any urge to fap. These are early days so not sure how coming days will be So still on NoFap , hopefully i can last longer enough to fix myself. Thanks for all support and inspiration and useful information. I'll keep in touch
You are not alone man. I just joined NoFap myself, not just for PIED from porn but also from cuckold porn. I too am repulsed by it and want to erase all aspects of porn (especially cuckold porn) from my life. I am not married and am a bit younger than you but I think you'll be fine if you truly abstain from P/M for 2 months. I'm on the same path as you so we're in this one together. Keep us informed and good luck man!
Have to say, at times it's extremely difficult to go on. I've relapsed twice ever since but right now again on 12 day streak. The streak is gradually increasing but it'll be really difficult for me as the two week mark comes near. Suggestions are most welcome. Listening to songs help though. Love AK
Stay active @AK Jstar. Think it through and make a plan for what you'll do when urges hit. I do things like go to the gym, read a book, talk to my wife about it, take the dog for a walk, clean a room in the house, you get the idea Whatever works for you is good, so experiment and see how it goes. My wife also helps me a lot with this. Best of luck with it!
If you are not underweight, try a low fat diet or a low calorie diet. That will most likely lower your urges..
I've found that reading helps a lot. I get so immersed in what I'm reading I can't think about looking at porn. That being said, you need to know your limits. If you can't handle a book where the author is very descriptive about sex then don't have it anywhere near you.
Your not alone brother alot of us are dealing with PIED. Stay strong We know the solution for our diseases. .. But dont let anyone make you feel bad or weird for your sexuality we should all explore all aspect of our sexual fantasy .... If you into cuckold or swinging go for it brother We only live once .. But NO PORN EVER Good luck bro your NEVER alone
Cuckold or swinging could make him more likely to relapse. He should do a full reboot. If he decides afterwards he can know it was him, and not the porn.
Hello Guys, Thanks for the lovely responses. I know I rarely login here but that's coz i try to keep away from internet and browsers. I have one question, i recently relapsed but that was with my wife with handjob and it was the first time it happened that I got orgasm with my wife but I feel I still have longway to go. However does this count as relapsed same as with porn?