Recently over the past few months I have had no self control, I've barely got to 4 days and I relapse. I see one trigger which is unavoidable on the internet and it sets me off and I end up relapsing, I know I need to eliminate all triggers out of my life but sometimes my mind triggers me. Any help?
I'd say it's important to identify triggers and figure out how to avoid them. For example, let's say you're a sports fan who is triggered by pictures of women in bathing suits. In that case, it's important to get your sports news from websites that don't include pictures of women in bathing suits. Are you triggered by pop-ups? Make sure you've got an adblocker installed. I was just reading another thread by someone about StayFocused, a Chrome extension. I don't know much about it, but the poster found it useful. It might be worth it looking into. Then of course there's K9 and Covenant Eyes. If you don't have either installed, you might consider doing so. If your phone is causing you problems, activate restricted mode. Have someone you know put in the password so that you won't be able to deactivate it any time you have urges. If that doesn't solve the problem, consider getting rid of your smartphone. You'll be able to get by without it. And do your best to stay positive. I know it's easy to get discouraged when you fall, but try to use it as a learning experience. Think about why you slipped and figure out how to make the necessary changes to prevent further relapses.
Thanks so much for all the support, I feel a lot better over the past few days, finally got to 3 days. I have read all the comments and I'm going to install some software to block all of it, it should help out a lot as all of my relapses start from on my computer and this will hopefully get rid of most of the triggers. Thanks so much for the suggestions, it really means a lot that there are people on the other side of this screen.
Unfortunately I don't have any helpful advice or suggestions, but just to say that I'm struggling with the same thing too. Giving up masturbating is not just the act of doing it, but a whole lifestyle as well (sadly). I'm all of a sudden realizing how my lifestyle affected my actions, and how I need to change that in order to help my recovery process. It's a daunting task.
Hey! I've been going through the same thing as you so don't worry you're not alone in this struggle. I don't really have any advice to you but just know that I am here for you and if you want to talk just pm me. Someone on here posted a 7 day challenge (That's what I'm doing right now) and if you feel up to it, you can join it. Stay strong and try and stay focused on your goal. I know you can do it!
I'm doing great at the moment, taking it 1 day at a time. Right now I've experienced a huge mood boost which is what I really need, I was starting to fall into a depression. Hopefully I make it to day 5 !