So I've not been fapping for ten days. The other night I thought I could just watch porn and not masturbate, and I did, but I didn't masterbate. This was a one off. But I found out here this really hinders the recovery process and still drains my time and energy. Not good at all for the brain! Since doing it I was jumpy all day, my anxiety went berserk during the afternoon and I wasn't enjoying sex with my partner. I found myself rushing what I usually enjoy as a slow, build up of tenderness and lovemaking. It wasn't good for either of us. She knows I'm doing this nofap challenge and is really happy that I am doing it. Anyway guys, sorry for the confessional, but that's what we're all here for eh? Support. So, to my question. My newsfeed has recently been wall-to-wall with images of girls, some bikini shots, some sexy shots and some other things. I find myself looking through these, like I did tonight for a while...and getting that same rush. Click, click, swipe, swipe, swipe. She's hot. She's gorgeous. Nice tits. How do you deal with this? I can't just deactivate Facebook. I've tried, but where I am and how things get organized, esp for my job and uni, is relatively all done through FB. Do you guys know of any plug ins or techniques that can help? Haven't fapped, but feeling the urge to.
Where are theses images coming from. You can hide certain people's posts from your feed without defriending them.
It seems connected that I have actually really, really scaled back on the Facebook'ing when I started trying to stop PMO. I started just by making sure I only checked once every hour when had free time and it has progressed to checking once or twice per day. I think it's helped my resetting. I've met a 15-day challenge and I think getting in the habit of telling myself No whether it has to do with PMO, Facebook or television has helped me be more productive overall. I understand why you would unfriend people but unfriend'ing can be a "slap in the face" to people, causing real relationship issues. It might be better to unfollow - unless they've caused you problems or you barely know them, etc.
Thanks for comments, points and recommendations. Really, yeah defriending is a bit harsh...but it's like so many people I met in passing and will never see again. I've trimmed it down to a core group of family, real friends and people i'd like to meet up with again.
My advice is to let facebook go as a whole. Better to meet people in real life. Facebook as a whole actually IS a similar addiction like PMO - it is a HUGE TIME WASTER. So many useless chit-chat which you forget 10 seconds later. Since I became serious with NoFap, I'm much more concentrated on my work and my goals, and I lost interest in facebook, I use it mainly just as an e-mail program.
As long as you do not masturbate and you don't waste ALL your time watching girl's photos I think it's OK.
click on a arrow in the upright corner of her posts, a menu will come down, click unfollow. Works good for exes too!
give up on facebook. It is addicting and a waste of time. I still have the app because of work and messaging but I try my best to not scroll the newsfeed. Ideally the only time you should open fb is if you get a notification.
Can only agree on this. Actually, "wasting time" seems to me one general root of addition, and PMO addiction is just one of the results. Wasting time means that one is not focussing on his goals, and this might be due to doubts, to fear of rejection, to unclear visions, etc. It's good to work on these issues and to focus, instead of wasting time.
Facebook always leads to a relapse for me. I try not to go on it otherwise I end up scrolling through pics of girls
