6 days this time around. Tips from experience.

I tried this 2 years ago, was able to last without porn for maybe 10 days at the most. Then I went back to my old ways. Now I'm back. I put together about 12 days, then went out again. Now I'm at 6 days and here's what I can say from my experience has helped:

1) I can't rely on NoFap, or Reddit, or anything internet-related as being my biggest and best tool for being pornfree!

2) I installed Covenant Eyes to block sites, and to provide accountability. You can choose whichever one you want, but I like it most because it's simple to setup and utilize, and provides accountability. As Matt Dobschuetz puts it, who hosts the Pornfree Radio podcast, internet filters need not be a WALL that is impenetrable, but rather a fence, with a "No Trespassing" sign. If I REALLY wanted to, I could get around the Covenant Eyes blocks, and look at shit, but I would also know my accountabilty partner (my girlfriend) would see it all, too!

3) I created consequences for myself, and shared them with another to hold me accountable. I told my girlfriend what I'd do if I were to look at porn. 3 things that I really do not want to do (cleaning kitchen daily for a month, cleaning shower weekly for a month, contributing to a dreaded politician's re-election campaign) are my consequences should I look at porn. This has helped deter me from action when I start to think about porn.

4) I listen to Pornfree Radio podcast. I dig it. Check it out if you can.

5) I've looked into other communities (usually church-based, which I don't like so much, but hey, I'm a fucking porn addict and I'm desperate and ANY support is good support). I'm at least willing to show up and attend and talk and listen and participate in my recovery, face-to-face, in the real world. That's important to me.

6) Pray. (Again, I'm not even religious), but I do find that prayer brings me relief. I don't even have to know who or what I'm praying to. I just fucking do it.

7) Take personal inventory. Each night I get quiet and reflect on my day. I ask myself, where have I been resentful? selfish? dishonest? afraid? I conduct this review and ask myself if I need to make any amends. I ask myself what I could've done better that day. I ask myself if I was thinking of myself most of the time, or if I was thinking of what I could do for others, to contribute to life. This is so dang helpful. I finish it with a prayer for guidance and willingness.

8) Help others. Be of service. If bored, look to be of service. If tempted, look to be of service. If uncomfortable, look to be of service. It's a great way to help oneself!