Curiosity - It is a problem

I don't know. It certainly could be but for me I have never done it and not gotten horny. That was the payoff, so to speak.

Whatever then excuse, I don't think it is worth it.
Hang in there!

 

I think it's what we associate with curiosity and novelty. The truth of course is there are only so many kinds of porn, and there is just not that much variation especially when it's not even real.

What about being curious about anything else? There are a lot of worthwhile things to be interested in life, some of it actually deserves our curiosity but we don't spend nearly as much time on those things as we do with PMO do we? Can you imagine what kind of incredible things we can learn and achieve if our persistence with PMO is applied to just about anything else?? Even if we measure it like say for each hour we put in to PMO over our lifetime so far we count a dollar, that's probably a lot of money - let alone the investment and payoff of deep self improvement and knowledge.

One way to look at it is to turn it against itself. With addiction people use repetition to their advantage, they go to recovery meetings and basically repeat that a lot. What happens if we get curious about why we're curious about porn? It becomes a psychological study.

I think the 'technique' of repetition is a nice starting point, and some have serious dedication over years and decades - but with all due respect repetition by itself is just not an intelligent way of solving anything, even if it does work when you put enough effort into it.

So what if we used curiosity towards recovery? I don't see that so much. With recovery people seem to identify with set programs but not so much qualities that are more exploratory like curiosity about the science and the stuff we are discovering about it. Sure it's understandable that people want stuff that has a good track record, but there are things that doesn't hurt to try - but may actually enhance and improve what we've already got. So I say be curious about that, there are principles that stay the same and we can say even timeless, but I think we can discover a lot of ways to improve the whole business.

 

I truly understand you and what did happened to you. It happened the same for me today, when I woke up this morning and realized that I'm curious about what new videos were posted on a website. I promised myself that I won't M, but of course, I ended up doing that.
I think curiosity needs to be kept safe, and NEVER, but NEVER let the curiosity guide you back to those pictures and videos. Even that you won't M, you see them, and they stick into your brain, after you fought so much to stop them from being there.

 

I think a good thing is to write into a notepad or make a word file of reasons to stay away from watching.

My relapses were random and I was not particularly horny either. I just started with small search and then long behold I relapsed. Most of this is a mind game and your body being used to cope without any P or M. Might try meditation.

 

Yeah I like hentai doujins and I always get curious about what my favorite artist has released. Curiosity killed the streak.

 

Yes.. it's a form of rationalisation I think.

Maybe we should think of ourselves like heroin addicts. Oh, I'm just a little curious if there's any new type of heroin out there.. don't do it.

 

Exactly, curiosity is just the brain trying to fool you as in, just take a small peek, but there is nothing small about it, it will lead to a relapse

 

I think curiousity is like a an urge. If we are talking in relationship with porn.

 

I know exactly what you are talking about. For me it is personals. I want to see if there are any new personals.

I think some of this stems from as you say curiosity. There is such a thing called the vice of curiosity. It is a lust of the eyes. It is actually rampant in our culture. One aspect is wanting to know things we have no good reason to know. A lot of our news is exactly that. It is gossip about people’s private lives. We may not think of ourselves as gossips but if we are reading about people’s private lives we are. And of course there is regular old gossip which a lot of our conversations can be.

One way to fight this is to watch for this in all areas of your life. If you are reading ‘news’ that is just gossip about people’s private lives then stop. If you are talking about other people then stop. Basically you need to temper this passion and learn to be content not knowing certain things.

 

Hi All,
This is my first time texting in this site (although I have been following the forum for the past few years).
Today I'm on my day 15 after many many failed attempts. I'm not really into porn, but I am addicted to movie nude/sex scenes. It started with watching scenes from GOT for me. I used to watch and fap to content in websites likes AZNude etc..

Anyways, today curiosity made me peek into something I did not want to. For the past 14 days I stayed completely clean without even too much fantasizing and avoiding social media. However, today I found an article about full frontal scene in a new movie. I was beating around the bush, going over the movie reviews, parents guide etc.. for sometime. I could not control my urge and finally gave in, found out the scene and proceeded to watch it.

Although I peeked (luckily the scene wasn't sexual) I would like to not consider this as a relapse and keep fighting. I hope this does not snowball into a complete relapse.

Such things happened to me in the past and I relapsed in the next 2-3 days. I really don't want to repeat it this time.

I think curiosity is something that is really difficult to overcome. I will follow-up the question asking, if I ever feel curious about something new, would I eventually give in? Can anyone who faced the same with something share their experience.

Note : Discussing such an experience might trigger some people to fall into the trap. Apologies for doing this. However, I wanted to get this feeling out to stop myself.

Peace