My life

You are right no one cares. But, what you don't know is that we all care!

Don't stick your toe in the water, dive in. Get involved with this community and you will see that each member on here cares - well, that's my experience anyway. It was also my experience that I had to do the work and say hello to people.

There is so much support on this forum, the profiles and the various groups. It works if you work it. I don't offer advise. I offer only my ESH (experience, strength and hope).

Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary.

1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program.

2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery.

Learn the NoFap Program
The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used.

They are:

• Download the free Getting Started guide.
• Set up a PMO-Counter Badge. More info here!
• Basic introduction to the science of porn addiction!
• Basic information about rebooting and how our challenges can help you recover from PMO. This is the most important page to read. If you only can read one page, read this one.
• About NoFap.
• Watch this video - it is an epic intro resource if you want to get particular details about porn addiction and how it changes how your brain works.
• This is a good light-weight video about porn addiction.
• Read through the journal sections and see what other rebooters have experienced. It is good to know what to expect, otherwise the "chaser effect", "the surge", or the "flatline" might throw you off.
• If you come across vocabulary that you can't understand, check out our rebooting glossary of terms.
• GET ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR HABITS! Sign up for a peer accountability partner. Otherwise if you want more professional-hosted solutions, check out NoFap Premium or Reboot Camp. If you can afford to invest in yourself, these are great options.

You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum.

Get Involved with the Community
The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others.

I'm nobody important around here. Just a normal user with no magic powers.

But, I can:

• Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH
• Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles
• Pick a forum and make sure evvery post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group.
• Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread.

Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

- L

PS - Think of pmo like a wolf. Stay near the center of the group with the winners and the wolf has a more difficult time finding you. But, stray near the edges of the community and the wolf can pick you off.

 

One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals.

Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

@2525 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/147264/
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@Visor Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/
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@I_can_and_I_will Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/138959/
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@weddingnails Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143418/
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@MLMVSS Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/142945/
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@Struggle Bug Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/141911/
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@BigDawg913 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/145872/
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@Sunshadow Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
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@kropo82 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/78164/
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@tet2vd Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144513
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@Protagoras Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/109842/
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@Tomoya Okazaki Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/
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@DavidGibson Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143325/
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@Euklid Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146663/
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@BreatheDeeply Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139097/
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@LiquidShoes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/134044/
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@Reverent Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/
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There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

- L

 

Welcome, stopping PMO will be the best decision you can ever make. I promise it will make your life better. Here is a link to my journal with the plan I used to overcome porn and other addictions. I believe that it is a good starting point and my plan may give you some ideas for developing your own plan.https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/no-cross-dressing-re-boot-journal.87827/