Is blowjob a relapse?

What are your goals? Is climaxing something specifically against your own personal rules for your reboot?

 

It’s really up to your own criteria. What form of NoFap are you aiming for? No PM? Or no PMO? It sounds like you intention wasn’t to come, but you did, in which case...yeah, that’s a relapse.

That’s why it’s so important to set hard and fast criteria right at the start. Having clearly delineated rules makes it easier because there are no grey areas in which your mind can trick you into doing something you’ll later regret.

 

I'd also add that if orgasm is against your rules, it's important to avoid situations that directly put you into risk of relapse, like in the scenario that you described.

 

Well, in that case... You didn't climax from porn, you were with a Real Live Person and for most rebooters that's the ultimate end goal. I think if you don't use this encounter to go fuel a porn binge then I wouldn't personally call this a relapse. It might help if you more clearly define your goals though. If you can't clearly describe the benefits that you're seeking and the path to get there, you're probably going to be asking yourself this question 'is it a relapse?' many times.

 

The 'superpowers' that people describe are a relative thing. They feel like superpowers to them because they've been so depressed/repressed/drained from PMO that removing those inhibitors allows them to return to a semi-normal state, which to them feels 'super' relative to the state they've been in for years beforehand. If you don't have a PMO (or even an M) problem then chances are you're already operating at a level close to what PMO recoverers would describe as 'super'. If you do still feel depressed/anxious though then there's probably some other cause. Many things can produce those negative effects, not just PMO.

 

I think you're ok. One orgasm in two weeks sounds good to me. It depends on what u started off trying to do. You have a gf so I suppose it's ok to orgasm within reason..try for once or twice a week..just avoid the pm

 

I agree with the others. You were with your girlfriend which is nothing but natural and healthy. Keep going, man!

 

You phrased that much more diplomatically than I ever would have. That's why you get the mod nod.

 

Out of curiosity, if your goal is no ejaculation, why was your girlfriend giving you a bj?