I'm a straight guy that's been suffering from HOCD. Every morning, since I don't feel attraction to anything, I get scared. I "test" through masturbation every fucking day and I just can't stop despite the reassurance that I gives me. I can't stop feeling terrified and I'm done. I tried to start NF last week but I just kept testing. I feel like I really need to reboot myself hard but I can't bring myself to do it. How the hell can I even bring myself to stop masturbating for a while? I don't intend on stopping forever but I intend on quitting for a while and then start again when I can do it in moderation. I just need some advice on how to stop for once.
Hi mate, Begin with blocking all the porn on your laptop, tablet, phone. Everywhere. After that you have to delete all your social media accounts (it's better for you, because social media can trigger you to PMO. For example sexy bikini pictures on Facebook can trigger you to PMO). Also you have to delete date apps like Tinder. I know it's diffucult, but at the long time you will be happy that you've done that. After a long hardmode reboot, your real sexuality (straight) will come back. If you loved girls, before the HOCD was coming up, you're straight and you will always be straight. Believe me bro. Good luck with your reboot! Send me a private message when you need help.
Hi man, I suffered a lot from HOCD and it sucks, I understand your struggle. I can assure you that testing won't make you more gay or more straight. For me the solution was simply to accept that maybe I was bisexual, and that was it. I simply carried on with my life. By day 60 my thoughts about other men had diminished a lot. by day 90 I started having sex with a girlfriend. Now I simply couldn't care less about other men. I just want to have sex with my girlfriend and I have an amazing time doing it. Do the reboot, don't fap for at least 30 days. block all porn sites. Get away from technology for some time. do some exercise, socialize. Just forget about your sex life and your sexual struggles and relax. With time your head will come back to normal. Wish you the best man, ask if you have any other doubts.
The thing is that I don't feel attraction to any men. I've tried over and over again to see and when I watch gay porn, I get grossed out. No arousal at all. I can't do that "maybe" part at all because being straight is such a big part of who I am but I'm down to start the program. I've been iffy about starting it because I've seen masturbation as a healthy thing but I'm going to do it. I still thing it's a healthy thing to do but it's compulsive now and I need to stop. The testing is so ridiculous because men and gay stuff is so hard to get off to but women and straight/lesbian porn is so easy to get off to yet I keep feeling the need to do it. It's ridiculous. I can't afford any professionally guided ERP or CBT so this is my best bet right now. I'm sleep deprived as fuck right now (Didn't get any sleep before work. Guess why?) but I'll start working out tomorrow and I'll just put more effort into getting a girlfriend. Honestly, at some points, it feels like I've replaced M with a GF. I'm satisfied imagining myself with women that I'll never have, then moping about how I've been single for so long. It's ridiculous.
Just looking at sexy women don't trigger me to PMO but when I start to fantasize, it does. Of course, Porn does so I'm going to avoid porn for a while. I'm not really sure that deleting dating apps will help me out though. I'm a pretty lonely guy and all I've got is my career. I've actually been able to go on a date or two and have some fun with women for once. My sexuality isn't really gone. I'm still really into women and I'm not into men but that "bi.bi.bi.bi" thought still comes up. Hell, there isn't anything that relates to men or gay stuff that I can get off to. It's just that obnoxious thought. Right now, I can straight up say. "Fuck that. I'm not bi" and feel fine about it but earlier today, it wasn't enough for me.
You have to do, what you prefer and What's better for YOU. Not mine. Every single person has his OWN reboot. Remember that. When you see hot sexy girls on YouTube and it doesn't trigger you, than it's good for you. My advice is: stay away from porn and stay away from YOUR possible triggers to PMO. When you need help or any advice about HOCD. I'm here to help you. I'm in a similar situation like you. Stay strong!
knowing that after a while, you won't feel the same, i thought i can't quit for good too!, specially i read i should do it after 90 days challenge, i feel empty and done. BUT by knowing that , stop PMO is not harming any part of your body in anyway, stop testing, it works just fine, when you are in flatline, you won't feel your lower part, and it feels like it is disabled, and broken as in won't feel anything, but after a while, you will , a while may means few month, and so on. but just remember, it is not broken, and no, its not gonna explode, if you make it through the night, by the morning, you will feel bit better. and a time goes, it will be feeling better, eventually you will know it works
