Porn Addiction/Food Addiction

My husband went from porn to food for the 1st 8 months . He gained 20 pounds
It was sad to watch . But a hell of a lot easier on ME than the PA . He put himself in check and since 11/1 we gym together 4-5 days a week , in a healthy way not addicted to gym . I see the parallel you speak of . He was getting the high from food .

 

Well, my husband, Jak and I, both struggle with addictions (him PMO, and me self-harm and anorexia which is a mental illness but mimics addictive behaviors and affects the brain in similar ways)

For both of us it's an escape of emotions. Though for me, I also punish myself with starvation. It's true though that the media fucking makes it impossible for women to not feel the need to diet, exercise, and once women are hooked to that they risk developing an eating disorder.

I know Jak hates it when "ED"(eating disorder) attacks happen. ED attacks are basically thoughts of needing to starve, restrict, and exercise to achieve a certain look to be loveable and fuckable.

For Jak, his urges to escape (whether PMO or cars) are about not wanting to face life and some of the realities in life.

And yeah, when I was in treatment (4 times) some girls had joined dieting programs and done extreme things and the whole program was based on making sure you don't eat certain things, log calories, and if you "slip up" then it's like a shameful thing. Society has made women feel ashamed for eating. It's sick.

And for my husband and I, you can see how being anorexic would be the worst thing to be with a PA. So our own individual problems affect us both negatively. Jaks addiction fuels my eating disorder, and my eating disorder, well, actually, I think it's helped Jak realize the damage society and porn does to a woman's psyche in thinking they have to look a certain way to be successful or to be loved, etc.

 

Great thread, @Colin the Librarian!

For me binge eating has been with me since my MO habit. I used food and MO to cope with the sexual abuse I experienced as a child. I've made a lot of progress with my binge eating by tracking my food and using a food journal. A lot of my change dealt with changing my view of food with the help of my coach who's been helping me view it as fuel instead of a treat or reward. It's been difficult to make this change in a society that is either blasting you with sexual material or on the other hand bombarding you with what is called "food porn". The interesting parallel is that society will present both devoid of their necessary healthy elements -love when it comes to sex and nutrition when it comes to food- but then turn around and shame you for using either one in the way they advertised them. Go figure.

Regardless, I used both PMO and binge eating for the same reason and that is to escape uncomfortable emotions/situations. Thankfully I've been able to identify two major roots for my triggers and those are:

1. Self-worth.
2. Fear of the unknown.

 

Yes !! I’m the opposite . I DONT eat when stressed or betrayal trauma shows it’s face ! My husband ate EVERYTHING. The two addictions have many of the same side effects ! Binge binge CRASH .