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I feel ya man. I really think it is wholly unrealistic that some feel after a certain point that urges go away. Lord... I wish that were true. But they don't do they? Our body and mind will always crave sex, I've even found my physical urges have gotten worse then ever at times. The only thing we can improve is our reaction.

I totally agree man, we have to think beyond the petty urges. I can't even imagine what it would feel like to relapse at this point. Don't do it!

Seriously you are echoing how I feel right now exactly. Wet dreams and all.

 

I think it takes a lot of humility for someone that is an inspiration to others to come here and be so honest about how tempted you are right now. I cannot think of any reason why you are having so many wet dreams though. I know this must be distressing to you because I remember you posting in the past about the lengths you would go to to avoid them. So, it must be confusing to want to masturbate to porn so strongly and to keep having these erotic dreams with emissions of semen.

All of the strategies you know so well will still be effective and the knowledge that you have gone so long without doing it must help. I, for one, certainly send my best wishes to you. God bless buddy: IGY

 

Hmm, how much have you been fantasizing and or searching for triggers? I have found I am more prone to wet dreams/ relapse dreams when I fantasize or excite myself with triggers. The dreams leave me feeling horrible when I wake up.

 

I have to say that I always sleep on my right side but that hasn't stopped me having wet dreams. But if you think it will work for you, maybe it will. The other thing you mention is stress. It is natural to want to be comforted when we are stressed. In the very sort term, masturbation relieves stress so there might be a cause and effect going on there.

 

I have the same suspicion as NoBrainer, if I were you I would fight those dreams during the day. I bet if you stay away from fantasies and triggers, it will keep the wet dreams at bay. Be stronger than ever, man, you know you can do this.

 

I would highly recommend being mindful. In other words, take a few minutes right after waking up, and right before falling asleep, and simply pay attention to any one aspect or object that you prefer. Let's say you decide to pay attention to your breath. If a thought comes up, recognize that the thought has come up, and return your attention to breath. This is garden variety mindfulness meditation, but the reason it is really useful for you (and for all of us) is this. Your indulging in fantasies when awake is a choice you're making, and not something that's on autopilot. Of course when you fall asleep, the fantasies continue in some form in your dreams, and affect your physiology, but you don't really have control over what you do in your dreams. if you worked on simply redirecting your attention to your breath when awake, the fantasies would not propagate in your mind so much, and their effect in your dreams would start to reduce as well. To sum this all up - meditate.

 

are you having sex? if not that should help lol

 

According to me i think u already abstained for a long period. thats why u r getting this frequent wet dreams. i advice u to do a real sex with some chick twice a week for a month. sex is a important need of a body like breath or food and water. ur bady want sex so give it ull definately see tha changes. and after couple of natural sex wet dreams will go away by itself.

 

I have a question: what about people who commit not to have any kind of sex until marriage?

 

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One thing that might help, check out the book "The Sedona Method" (http://www.amazon.com/Sedona-Method...&qid=1414035637&sr=1-1&keywords=sedona+method). The book talks about learning to release your emotions, and includes lust as one of them. Now full disclosure, I am only a few chapters in so far, and I've not found the specifics of the method helpful (they give you a series of questions to ask yourself over and over). Nonetheless, I found the ideas presented in the book to be very helpful, and it helped me become aware of something I had already learned to do to deal with depression episodes.

I have found it particularly helpful in my latest round of attempting to quit porn. The gist is: instead of fighting your horniness, you accept and embrace the feeling. Note, this is different from engaging in fantasies and erotic thoughts - you don't let your mind imagine these things, you just accept that you currently possess the feeling of horniness. You welcome this feeling as natural and healthy, and you don't struggle against it, particularly because you know it is temporary and will pass.

I've found this surprisingly helpful for many horny episodes - they fade away more quickly than when I've tried to fight them before.

 

I have had periods like the one you're describing, Squeaky Soul. It's not clear to me why they happen... I've done many of the typical suggestions about sleeping in different positions, etc. and don't find them to work for me. I do use those periods to examine whether I'm misbehaving during the day with my thoughts and glances: sometimes I am, sometimes I'm not.

I've learned to just let them go and they eventually clear up. It may be stress, like some are suggesting or maybe just male body chemistry that science hasn't figured out yet. It's the fear of them that will cause me to want to PMO again, not actual arousal. When I get rid of the fear, the problem takes care of itself.

Sex, to me, is not quite like eating or sleeping. If you don't eat or sleep, you die. People's bodies do not shrivel up and die if they don't have sex. Although I understand that rationally, somehow I did believe, when I stopped PMOing, that somehow I would die, because the urge would feel that strong sometimes.

Well, haven't died so far...

 

Sex is not a "need" in the same way food, water and air are. It's a strong primal drive, but you won't die without it.

 

Its not abt dying its the nature of our body. if u dont eat healthy food then also u dont die but we all prefer to have a healthy diet. why ? because we all want to live a healthy life. if u dont excercise then also ull dont die. but we all r doing some extra activity why ? to stay fit and active. living a life like only not to die is not a life. with living we means health. mind without stress and anxiety. science has also proven that sex is also a part of good health. without sex ull dont die but ull feel urself unhealthy arouse stressfull irritated etc etc. and the one thing that u people alway forgot is that we all here on this website has trained our body to react rapidly against sex because of pmo. if u decided not to sex before marriage. u want to save ur manhood for wife. then why u people pmo ed. instead of wasting ur juice in bathroom spit it in some real pussy. its natural and healthy. if u dont pmo then also ull not die but u had pmo ed regularly like eating or breathing. we all r here to quit this thing,by doing natural sex in a while we can divert our mind from fantasies to real. our body will come to know what is real. and also it helps to relieves us from stress and arousal. nofap means not to pmo. its not mean that we will not do a sex. like this we r just punishing ourself. if u abstained for 90 days its enough time.after that a single shot can give u power to abstain another 30 days easily. i m abstaining because i want to enjoy real sex. i have to quit pmo. and its a fact if u sex few times in a month ull not get aroused and wet dream as well. because of mo we trained our system not to store too much gravy in our testis. it got shrunk because of mo. until it will become healthy and back to its original capacity our body cant store extra cum and we promised ourself that we will not mo

 

Then what our body will do. it starts spitting by itself. see to the positive side of this natural activity. its not a wealth u r saving its a health. and to stay healthy do whatever is need.

 

You may be able to live on bad food, but you can't live on no food. You can live with no sex, porn or masturbation.

I guess we'll see how unhealthy, stressed and "aroused" are those of us here who are celibate.