Guys i want your advice and what you think about this? I am a 27 years old guy and did PMO since i was 12/13. I watched porn and masturbated to a orgams 4 or 5 times a week and sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. I hated myself and i think i was a addict!! Im since 17 November 2017 on nofap doing no PMO. Till now i didnt watch porn, didnt masturbate and also didnt orgasm with porn and masturbation! Im proud of my self and never thaught i will come so far!! I On day 70 i meeted a girl and after a couple of days we decided to see each other.. when we were together we walked and talked about life etc. After that we kissed and then i fingered here to a orgasm. After that she gave me a blowjob and i also orgasmed. I dont consider this as a relapse, because it was a real girl and dont a screen with pixels and with my own had. I didnt watched porn and then masturbated to a orgasm. It was a real girl in real life.. it also wasnt a prostitute or something. After that we talked every day. But after a couple of days i stopped the contact because i always get aroused en heated up when i talk to her, because she always talks about sex and i was afraid that i wil relapse. Since then i stil didnt PMO. I didnt watched porn, didnt masturbate and didnt orgasm with masturbation. Till now i am 3,5 month on nofap and no PMO. I noticed that i dont have the urge anymore to masturbate or to watch porn. I see porn as something disgusting now. Are here some signs of recovery? Do you have advice how now further? Thanks!!!
Well, there is a signal of recovery since you met a real woman and got intimate with her. As you can tell, it's pretty hard to separate what's normal sex-wise when you allow sex in a reboot. What you've been doing now is what I am doing since I am on NoFap. A lot of hot girls have been approaching me, one of them is unbelievably hot, but I nonetheless dismiss her because my NoFap is more important now. I promised myself that after 90 days I would make a decision about WHICH OF THE GIRLS I want, because, yeah, now I have options. If you think this girl is more important, and maybe you could explain to her that you're on NoFap, I think you should avoid sex from now on. There are other things to do with this gal other than sex, I'm sure you can get inventive.
That, at least to me, is recovery. It's my goal. As far as what constitutes normal sexual behaviour? As the other poster said, you could wait 90 or more days for a full reboot and approach it from there Or, since you reached my personal goal of recovery, decide what is "normal" sexual behaviour based on your personal morals and ethics which are fortunately no longer corrupted by pmo
hi, seems like you've been doing well by keeping away from porn. while i can not promote sex outside marriage, I would advise you to seek a long-term life partner. not just a girl you want to play with when your bored.
I notice that I don’t have the urge no more I find it down right disgusting to be honest, sad and a waste of time.
I think it was total relapse. If she would be a prostitute that would be fine though. That was a joke obviously. You doing good job. Only thing I dont understand why you stopped the contact with her, she seemed very interested and normal sex to real woman can imho help rewire your brain much faster particularly after 100 days long streak.
Thanks men! I stopped the contact because we talked to much about sex. I always was heated up when i talked to her and i was afraid to relapse. I first want to reboot 100%.. What do you think??
I am no expert. But if I am you, I would consider that as recovery. And I will not disclose about my reboot ti the girl at this point. I will tell her I like her but I am interested in her beyond sex. And would suggest to her other activities both intimate and non-intimate and get to know more about her. I will definitely have occasional sex with her. IMO that will give me more strength and resolve to stay away from PMO. The only reason tou need to avoid her is if you have any porn sub in mind when you are intimate with her...... Wish you all the very best. Your reboot is working
Like, one thing I emphasize over and over, this is not a strictly linear process, and what "recovered" is is subjective. I have been doing about 4 months no PM, and am attempting no O for a while. The issues I had as a result of porn addiction have been greatly reduced, but I'm not quite satisfied yet, so I'm abstaining from sex for a while too (hence why my counter is now back to zero). However, I could easily see how some other men would be contented with the level I'm at and continue with sexual relations and/or go back to masturbating again.
