So , my weak erections and low libido happend as a side effect of Minoxidil. And i didnt know abt nofap and i kept fappin with weak erections nd no urges for almost 7 months. So she is my frnd and wants me to do her. I told her abt my problm and also tht m on reboot and she is fine wid it and wants me to finger her , basically not penetrate untill i feel comfrtabl to do so. What should i do? I did a 50 day streak then relaspd and now on 16th day again. I hv seen improvmnt in libido but not much in Erections. What should i do?? Thanks in advance
This is a real short response based on your post: IMHO, having sexual contact while you are working on your addiction is okay as long as you can HONESTLY stay with her 100% mentally and physically. If you are having fantasies while your attention is supposed to be with her, then that is unhealthy and you need to refrain. You streaks of 50 and 16 days show that you are doing the work necessary to get healthy. Continue to be that way out of respect for her as well.
Thanks fr the words brother. Shez supportiv and says that i can tell her whenvr i feel im ready. I guess sexual intimacy and satisfying her in other ways should be good untill i feel my erections and spontanity of erections are good enough fr intercourse.Btw You from India ?? That Om.
You should ask if fingering her helps you in your rebooting process. If you can do it without releapsing or getting urges to releapse than do it, else don't! It also depends on your NoFap goals
I would say go for it - as long as you don't think about porn while fingering her. Think about her - think about you - but never about porn.
If you remove your penis from the equation, as in it doesn’t play, you should be fine. Reboots are about learning to enjoy REAL sex. Just make sure you are present and not off in fantasy land. Give her your full attention. Eye contact. Take your time. And make sure your nails are trimmed and clean.
I am not really a porn addict and my weak erections n low libido came as side of minoxidil (how n why idk). So fantasizing etc is nothin on my mind. thanks evryone fr the advice
my goals are overcomin weak erections, low libido ( alrdy better than when i started) and also performanc anxiety coz of all this.
Why does your friend want you to finger her? Are you two even interested in each other romantically? Seems so random. Surely she has her own finger. Just focus on your reboot bro.
we two hv been sexting even before my problems started. So i told her evrything abt my problm n reboot. Says i can fingr her untill i feel good enough to do her.
I do love the practical thinking of that girl xD becased on your goal "performance anxiety" it might be better to do it and get experience with this girl so when you are having sex you don't have to worry.
yes.. even though my erections are weak and dont stay up long like before but i can get hard enough to penetrate but jus fear the failure. So i guess not usin my boy with her for sometime nd only doin other stuff should make me comfrtable ..
