please read,im feel like a shit

been there

in the process of recovery you will fall numbers of times. no way you can recover a real adiction in one single try so don´t be too hard on yourself. get used to failing because when you fail you can get up. when you decide to get up that´s the secret, the true attitude of wanting to be free. so no matter you much you fail the importance is that you get up and go again. you will give a strong signal to yourself that porn is only a temporary issue and no matter what you will start nofap again and be free from porn.

love yourself even in the relapse moments because is easy after a relapse to say "well, why the fuck did i relapse? don´t i know better by now? here i am once again, sad and depressed" but truth is moments ago you were raging with sexual impulses, many of them really hard to ignore or control. so you relapse, let it be, it´s ok, it´s part of the process. you´re not trying to be superman.

also try to learn something about the triggers of the last relapse. can you learn something about them? can you find a way to deal with them in a different way?

good luck

 

Hey man i know about this more than you can imagine, I've been trying to kick this addiction for the last 3 years and the longest ive ever been is 30 days. After I relapse i cant look at myself in the mirror for the next week or talk to anyone that i care about because i cant even look them in the face im so ashamed. Ive lost count of the amount of relationships ive lost due to the fact that when i relapse im a completely different person. But what i learned over all these years is you need to focus on getting to small mile stones not just the 90 days because staying motivated for 90 days is impossible to do. So what i recommend doing is reward your self every week and take it one day at a time because if you believe you cant go 90 days you wont be able to But the good news is that it takes 3 weeks to break the initial habit of craving porn and masturbation but after that is when it gets WAY easier because the rest of it is just mental not physical. If you have any more questions or just need someone to talk to just lmk and im here.

 

I cant really speak for you but for me its mainly because after so long of failing and starting over literally hundreds of times the motivation to continue starts to fade but thats why u always recognize when you achieve a milestone and be proud of yourself for it so the motivation to continue stays with you. Whats Your Highest Day?

 

There you go man thats the attitude you need to be able to succeed. But we continue for our own reasons mine is to make my dad proud. So right now u need to come up with your own reason to fight because if you have no reason other than 'it makes me feel better' than you will fail.

 

"When Your About To Give Up Remember Why You Started" Words to live by brother. Good Luck And You Know How To Contact Me If You Need A Friend.

 

Anytime

 

From my experience & from what I have read, you may be rebooting for the wrong reason, my friend. And having a strong reason to start this is very pivotal to your success. Don't reboot to test ( doing PMO to getting involved in sex again is called testing). Following are the solid reasons to reboot
- To recover health and enjoy longer life
- To do it for the religious purpose. How do you feel committing sin each day?
- Do it to become successful
- Do it for your family & friends
But if you are doing it to recover & then plan to involve in the sexual cycle again, you would never be able to succeed.
Understand the moderation is the key.
And nothing is going to change if you don't use this flame inside of you to set up your life & schedule. And don't count the days. Just enjoy your new found liberty, the state that God wants to be in & the days would pass like that. I myself was an addict for 12 years & could get over this debauchery in one go.
I believe in you & you can certainly do it. Feel free to message me for any assistance!

 

that´s it.

your motivation is essencial for the sucess of the treatment. find a reason that ressonates with you, strongly ressonates, something that´s truly important for you. that´s the funding rock of everything

 

Hi @treborn,

I understand how to feel. I am a (former) serial fapper myself. I would also masturbate at least 3 times each day until a few months ago.

I somehow did 100+ days of nofap in the first attempt (I still cannot figure out how I did it). After I relapsed following the long streak, I found it absolutely hard to get back ever since. I have relapsed at least a dozen times the past 2 months alone.

However, I am no longer a serial fapper. Thats progress.

Watch all the videos in the playlist;
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLE_vQWWxgaiED3B2gbKWzXItVNIQErstT

Although I still find nofap extremely difficult (which only a heavy addiction trying to quit can understand), however, it has gotten easier. That I can assure you.

 

I think he means that like how I need nofap cause it helps my anxiety out that their is a specific reason why your doing this.

 

just like Low pointed out. basically you are here for a reason right? you have be truly honest with yourself, brutally honest. why do you wanna be free from porn? only you and no one else can answer that cause porn makes damages in many aspects of one life´s.

so you have to be totally honest with yourself. deep down, why do you wanna be free from porn?

hold on to that reason. that´s your main motivation for the entire treatment, especially when bad circunstances arise. and they will arise.

my main reason is: i wanna live a happy, energetic, creative life. and porn makes me tired, irritated, depressed and demotivated.