Help me get past day three

Well, im not quite sure what to say, but here goes. Firstly you've got to really want it. If you dont you'll never beat off the urges. You have to want it and know that your life will be so much better once you are freed. Secondly, stay busy and keep your mind occupied at times when the urges are most strong. Good luck man, you can do this.

"Sometimes we can only find heaven by slowly backing away from hell"

 

Ultimately we all have to take responsibility for our own recovery, nothing can really stand in your way apart from you.
Advice is greatly received and knowledge is very helpful but it comes down to you in reality.

 

This may sound strange, and difficult, but try going to a public place, for example, a library or cafe, and sit with the urge. Where in your body does it come from? (I bet it's not he groin!) Are there other feels or emotions going on under the urge? Be with the urge until it lessens (it will), then recognize that all things are impermanent, including urges to PM.

And keep this in mind... you came to this site and posted, why? For support and because you want to be shed of this habitual acting out. You can do this!

 

i have found cold showers are huge, volunteer, its hard to get urges when you are in a soup kitchen, or an animal shelter,,,the main thing is get out of your head and do stuff for other people,,,thats prolly my best advice

 

Play this trick with your mind... Whenever the urge comes don't get frustrated. It's natural to experience different kinds of thoughts so there is no point in getting worried. But just keep in mind that you don't have to dwell in the bad thoughts. Don't entertain them because what happens most of the time is that a thing that makes you worry, often poses more trouble to you later on.
Consider your urges to be "prey" and yourself as a "hunter". A hunter gets delighted whenever he sees his prey. In the same manner whenever the urges come, consider it to be an opportunity to hunt them down. Remind yourself of your goals at that time. Do some routine that you like the most during that moment.
Initially you are required to put in some effort and it won't but as they say that "Right habits are hard at first and most rewarding later on". So keep going ahead!! You can do it!! Stay Strong!! Stay clean!!

 

stay focused man, stay focused

 

I'm on Day 3 too, let's do this together.

 

heres my take,,,this whole thing is a bitch,,,sobriety or addiction,,,either kinda sucks,,,I've been trying to thread the needle and do both,,,and that doesn't work,,,i just have to accept life kinda sucks and maybe thats the way to go--no perfect girl waiting for me in pixeland--life kinda sucks but maybe if you accept that, and embrace that, than life isn't so bad all of a sudden,,,,just a thought

 

The Buddhists believe life is essentially suffering. We either cling to things we desire (sex) or push away things we dislike (nasty people). It's a life of push and pull, and it's all an illusion. When we realize that nothing is permanent, that the root of the push/pull dilemma is an overactive ego, and when we set ourselves on a path of acknowledgement and acceptance, life takes on a different perspective; it doesn't suck, it just is. So, accept, embrace and, yup, it ain't so bad after all. Thanks for cutting to the chase Greggory.

 

An excellent perspective! I really like how you characterize the material and spiritual life and our presence in them!