What do you do when you're horny? I've had some strong cravings throughout the day. It's hard for me to fall asleep because I keep thinking about sex. What do you suggest?
Hey man just ride it out it will pass. Stay far away from the computer as possible and go do something else, give your phone to someone if you have video or browsing abilities. The first 3 weeks are the toughest for everyone. It will eventually get easier. Depending on how addicted you were, your mood will vary pretty much throughout and the bouts of lethargy, energy, horniness, aggression, flatline, depression you name it will come at you from different angles. It's enough to drive some people to relapse. Just keep pushing on and swim in the mud to get to a cleaner river.
Looks like we are about the same time into our journey. I have had 2 stints that were horrible. They both lasted 2-3 days. The first one was capped off with blue balls. The second one wasn't that bad but I knew I wanted to PMO. Ways to combat it -Workout -Run -play an instrument -pray -read the Bible -go spend time around others. You likely won't PMO in front of them -educate yourself on what porn addiction is -expect withdrawal symptoms. You will be able to fight it better I hope this helps WRA
clench your PC muscle, and anus and breathe in, repeat this for about 5 mins, and then imagine a ball of energy going round 36 time in your head one way, then 36 the other way, then put your tonge on th eroof of your mouth for a few seconds.Also deep breathing, you can count each breathe up to 100, hope that helps, works for me.
@ Jason and Maggie. I missed you guys. Where have you been all of my life. I personally think you are hilarious. No joke, I really do find a lot of your posts so stupid they are funny. Try this one: I live in a part of the world where we have 10 days in the week. Kharakistan. I bed my wife twice every day, so a total of 20 time per week. But I am still dissatisfied, so I PMO every night, but since my wife helps me with that and my wife is on the video I am watching, though with another guy and a strange woman, I don't feel it is a relapse. I have a great life! @ the other gentlemen here, understand this is a public forum, so anyone can post anything. There is some good advice here, some bad advice, and some people just putting you on. Learn to know the difference. "Thanks! Yeah, basically, I want to never PM again (I'm all about the O, though, since I'm married)." I am laughing out loud. Seriously, that is SNL worthy. I am all about the O. That's classic. See you Darlings around.
Hey! I'm new to the forum but not to the fight. Here's what I would suggest: It's an old trick called "sublimination". Basically the way I understand it is that your sexual energy is just a part of your creative energy. And all that sexual energy can be used in another type of creative passion, such a writing or drawing or painting or cooking or singing. Even working out, you're "creating" motion and power, and therefore getting rid of some of that energy. If it's something you really enjoy, there is likely a "creative" part of it. Even in writing this post, I'm working out some of my "creative" energy as I craft these words into a post. Idk if you're religious (like I said I'm new here), but if you are, here are some additional tips (if you're not skip this paragraph). Pray Pray like you've never prayed before. In fact, pray when you first think a lustful thought. Confess the lustful thought before it can even become a desire. It sounds extreme, but it really helps, because when you get horny you tend to try and hide from God when really you should be turning toward him. If you're not religious, meditation and such can still help. Thinking about other things. Pondering your place in the universe and all the history that had to take place to get you to live exactly the life in exactly the place you live now. You come in awe of the universe, and that replaces the horniness. Or that might not work.. I'm not sure. Try it anyway? Good luck
I got these techniques from 'the multi orgasmic man' by Mantak chia.After my 90 streak, I will at some point revisit these techniques. They are ancient Taoist practices. Also you can say the Ho'oponopono prayer, from hawaii, which is 'I love you, I'm sorry, please forgive, thank you'. You can say it over and over mentally, the more the better, if you are around difficult people it will stop you getting negative thoughts, and spiralling down into darkness.
That sounded a little bit sexist... As if women were made to relief our sexual needs and only. As a single man, I agree with people who said working out. Since I'm going to the gym, I don't even have time or energy to spend on PMO. Just try to make a schedule. Fill your days the most you can - and stay firm to it. Even if you reserve some time for movies or videogames. But physical effort will help you to sleep early and get into a routine. Whatever works for you, keep it up - even if it sounds "creepy".
Well, I am the one he throws on the bed and has his way with -- and I do not feel used. In fact, I enjoy it. You see, he loves me, and I him. But even more to the purpose, we are married. When I married him, I gave to him the rights over my body. Why should I hold against him the exercise of a right I *freely* gave him?
Cause it sounds he masturbates himself using your body. I wouldn't marry a fleshlight, you see? But anyway, let's not divert the subject of the thread.
First of all, there is a difference between sex with one's spouse and masturbation. There is an intrinsic difference between the appropriate use of the sexual faculty and the misuse of it. But if it comes to that, I tend to want to have sex more often than he does. I would be up for at least twice a day, every day.
