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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Young Change, Jun 4, 2018.

  1. Young Change

    Young Change Fapstronaut

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    HI,
    I'm Kelvin Muema from Kenya and I learned about this website when i googled ''How to stop masturbation.'' I'm 22 years old, and still in campus studying accounting. This is my second day going without porn and sex and I feel amazing. My self-esteem is very high and I'm deeply elated. I discovered porn In 2014 while on my high school holiday and began masturbating frequently to the point where I couldn't pay attention in class, thus my grades dropped. Now I'm in University and still addicted. The most i've gone without watching porn is one week and it was last year. I want to stay away from porn forever since it's making my testosternone levels go low and I kind of see girls as sex objects only. That's why I'm still single. I want to get in a meaningful relationship and be clean sexually the way I was before I discoverd porn.
     
  2. Woodland-Soul

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    Your doing a great thing. I'm four days in doing nofap and I feel well, like a god. Maybe thats a slight over-exaggeration but I feel way more confident, sexy, more masculine and just happier. Its like I've got more of a drive for life and to fuck the world so to speak. Its crazy.

    Goodluck!
     
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  3. Young Change

    Young Change Fapstronaut

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    Thanks.
     
  4. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     
  5. OvoVikk

    OvoVikk Fapstronaut

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    Kwanza it's inspiring kuona a brother from kenya
    Man hii kitu ni ngumu lakini we I think ujaingia deep sana kwa porn ju hujaanza kutafuta genre zingine disturbing
    so we just have to stay away from it na tutakua fiti
    All the best!!!!
     
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  6. NinjaTrust

    NinjaTrust Fapstronaut

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    Bro tuko na wewe mpaka mwisho. This thing is shameful back home.
    Let's stand and fight it with all we got

    Kudos brothers
     
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