NoFap got me in trouble with an obsessed woman

What's the problem? There's a woman you want sex with, who seems to be into you. What's not to like? Have lots of sex with her. You win NoFap.

 

Tell her it was a bad idea and that you shouldn't be talkig or seeing each other anymore.

She's married FFS.

I know what i'm talking about I had an affair of a few months with a married girl who fell in love with me. Tha k God she didnt have kids and her husband was living on tbe other side of the country for work. But you're qctively participating in destroying that family.

Flee!

 

Yea dawg it sounds like you should gtfo.

If this shit is causing you anxiety it isn't worth it.

The added stress could potentially tempt you to go back to PM if it gets too much. Follow your gut dude.

 

Well, I have heard from a lot of guys who did it with a married woman. So you don't have to feel bad about yourself. Its common enough that you don't have to see yourself as a bad person.

It takes two to tango. The married women has to have some issues as well. Maybe she is unhappy in her marriage. Maybe her husband is a PMO addict too and unavailable sexually, so she sensed that you could really appreciate her. Maybe she has her own SLAA-type of addiction and you're not the first person she had an affair with. None of these are reasons to judge her harshly for but it's just a drama triangle kind of thing.

I would say good job having sex since that is a lot of people's goal. I would like to have an active sex life.

It might not even be inherently wrong to be with a married woman. Some people even say incest isn't inherently wrong. It might have natural components or valid psychological components like I said above.

Maybe you could try to help her find some support like SLAA, ACA, Al-Anon, S-Anon, etc. where she could get help with whatever is driving her to be obsessed with you.

I think the best advice was that if it's impacting your serenity then you have to let it go for your own sake. Don't make it about guilt over her or her family because that's not about you. make it about you, and your own serenity. So whatever brings you inner peace.

 

Cut ties bro. Your happiness is number 1.

 

I probably shouldn't have laughed here but I did (not in a mean way). That's probably the best thing I've read on NoFap. You developed your conscience. Bank on that, bro! Listen to it because it is your intuition telling you what you should do. You need to be honest with her and cut ties. Hopefully she's a level-headed person who isn't going to make it difficult to get out. Don't scorn her though. You knew what you were doing when you got started. Make her understand why it won't work. As nice a guy as you were being to get into her pants is what you need to be to get out. It's the only way you'll be able to walk away without your newly developed conscience eating you up. I've been exactly where you are right now. P may not make you the most confident person when it comes to picking girls up in the club but it will give you the courage to do really strange and sometimes immoral things in the search for excitement. Don't beat yourself up about this either. She made her decisions too. The fact that you're this cut up about it means your moral compass is working. Cut ties and move on. Bless

 

Make a decision.

That's what you gotta do.

Decide.

 

Anal. Lol

 

MGZ: I agree with other posts... cut the tie. I've had two affairs and neither ended well for my family! Avoid this woman because she has issues of her own, at least if she's as pushy as you say. BTW the pushiness may be the reason her husband works on the other side of the country. There are all sorts of things you can do to avoid her, not least of which is to block her phone number and avoid places where she is likely to hangout or see you.

And be grateful that your reboot and recovery have changed you state of mind and consciousness. If there is one woman out there attracted to you, there will be others who aren't married and not carrying around baggage. Walk proud of your new mindset!

 

It sounds like exactly what I would want except if she wasn't married or had kids.

 

Tru. Well if you found yourself in those kinds of relationships it might be ACA issues or codependency. I've bene going to ACA for years and it helped a lot with getting to know these tendencies. ACA is at www.adultchildren.org. I never really felt I needed Codependents anonymous because ACA really covers all the same bases.