You're right! I feel like I need to hurry up and get started on working towards bigger and better things and because I pressure myself with that kind of urgency, I create a lot of stress for myself. I'm only 20 so I still have time but I can't wait to find my life purpose!
I wish I had been as motivated at 20 haha im 27 now, you stay strong young man your doing great!! What ive started doing is writing week goals month goals and year goals down for motivation but again if I maybe didn't do one thing in the week goals but did a lot of good in other areas don't stress
I actually started to doing stuff like that some but have never really stuck to it. That is good advice though man. Thanks for it! I mainly just want to figure out what I really want to pursue in life and start building up muscle because I am tired of being scrawny haha.
https://www.myprotein.com/thezone/training/push-pull-legs-routine-best-mass-building-workout-split/ Dude read this it should get you started on building some muscle any questions just ask
Thanks for this man. You think I should really workout only 3 days a week starting out though? I want to go everyday haha
You can go everyday but do cardio on your none lifting days. And you will only need to do 3 days lifting for a little while till your recovery improves i do 4 days lifting other days swimming or martial arts or general cardio
Day 31 It's been a month guys! I can't say I've been feeling super great lately but I can't complain. I haven't dealt with temptation like at all for the last two weeks. I just have no desire for porn anymore but It's not like I'm going through a flatline. I still get horny but I just don't have any interest in porn. I hope it stays this way. So I was just kind of sitting and thinking tonight while being at home alone and I think I'm starting to discover something about myself and am kind of going through a transformation. I don't know, it is hard to describe. For the past two years I've been going to school, just sitting and working on a computer all day just about everyday and I thought I was happy, most of the time. I thought creating graphics, videos, visual effects is exactly what I wanted to do in life. I didn't require me to socialize much and I could just keep to myself and get work done. I could see myself making a lot of money if I stuck to it because I've found quite a bit of success doing it. However, since starting nofap I can't stand to be at home sitting on the computer. Alone. I have like this drive to constantly go out, be around people, to reach out, and socialize. I don't necessarily hate being on a computer but I just hate being alone. It's not because I get urges to watch porn either. I just simply like being around people now. For years I've been filling the void of connecting with people, with porn. I was totally okay with working alone all day because I always had really bad social anxiety, but deep down inside I desired to have people to talk to. Now that I've eliminated porn from my life, I'm starting to take action on my desires, despite my anxiety. It doesn't even have to be a girl I like, it can be anybody. I think why I gravitated to porn was because it was sadly the easiest and closest way I could experience a (false) connection with someone. This all probably stems from how when I was younger I was obsessed with being accepted by others but unfortunately hardly ever was. As a kid, this created anxiety for me when I was around people so I thought something must be wrong with me. I don't know if any of this makes any sense but that is just how I feel. I wonder where I'll take the next step for my life. I have a desire to connect and help people who are struggling so I'm wondering if these desires I have will lasts and if I may end up changing my career path. I took a intro psychology class last semester and loved it. I don't hate what I do but I do hate doing at home all alone. If I had a job and worked with a team of people I think things would be different so I'm going to still be looking for a job and just see what happens. That may give me the desire to start creating again. If there is anybody who reads this who feels alone and wants someone to talk to, don't hesitate to message me! Keep going strong guys!
That's great news man! And I totally understand what you're going through i am going through the same thing I used to think I had bad anxiety and that was just how it was but as you have said it isn't and doesent. Word of warning at this point in the reboot you may have some bad days but your willpower will be stronger and you will discover what your capable of and what you do and don't want to do. Like me and my current job and you and yours. You and I and everyone going through a reboot are discovering ourselves. As always I wish you the best and keep us updated.
Thanks! I wish you the best as well. I believe we have bright futures ahead of ourselves. We just gotta stay focused.
Day 39 Wow! I haven't realized it's been over a week since my last post. I guess I just haven't really been thinking of porn too much lately so just haven't thought about posting. I've sort of hit a flatline though I think. I've been kind of all over the place, sometimes I feel great and sometimes I feel very unmotivated and tired. My sleep schedule has been all over the place lately so I haven't been able to make time to workout like I want but I want to get back on it! Really hasn't been too much to report on other than that. I hope everyone has been doing great!
Great to hear you do tend to post a lot less at this point which is actually a good thing you have more control and are just living life The ups and downs are normal also buddy good to hear your well
Day 43 Times are ROUGH right now for me. I am currently typing this out drunk as shit. So the girl who I went out with just bailed out on our second date and made an excuse as to why she couldn't come. It's obvious now she doesn't like me. The funny thing is though is I just had a chance with a girl who I could have probably had made a move on right here at the house I'm staying at! I didn't because of this other girl so I'm feeling pretty stupid right now. The girl who was here at the house got me drunk and we just started talking. She is married too by the way so probably a good thing that I didn't do anything but FUCK! I feel like shit now... Still have no desire for porn though. Just felt crappy and wanted to rant...
Day 1 Yep, that's right. I gave in. I only masturbated though, I did not watch any porn. I had a moment last night where I just didn't care about keeping up my streak anymore and just gave in. It didn't really bother me too much either. I actually forgot I even did it until later in the day. I'm not sure if that is good or bad but all I know is that porn is so much less appealing now for me ever since I started this process and it is nice to know that even if I give in to temptation it doesn't screw up my mindset. That last post was me at one of my lowest points since starting this and I can now officially say I don't recommend dating when rebooting. Talking to girls is okay but be careful not to become infatuated with them.
Don't beat yourself up buddy you've done an excellent 1st streak and more importantly learned a lot about yourself and grew as a person!! And also you know what to avoid next time around I've been in your situation more times than I care to remember. Don't be scared of failing at anything it's often the perceived failures that help us grow as people. Always here man standing back up for another round you da man!!
Thanks bro! I appreciate having you around on these forums. You are one of the biggest inspirations to me. Hope you are still doing well! Yeah it also turns out she is now seeing another guy so she was talking to another guy the whole time we were becoming a thing. I definitely want to keep talking to girls though but just know to not trust them. I got my hopes up just a bit too much but still made a ton of progress I feel like. My confidence around girls is still up. The one thing I'm not happy about though is how I still haven't found a full-time job. I've just been working for a bunch of different people when I can and not really making that much money. That is what I want to focus on now. That and going to the gym!
Good man make those your focus!! I think you've just had a bad experience with regards to that girl but I'm sure next them you'll be more on guard which is all you can do really Really happy I motivate you mate makes me feel good haha
Day 1 So I've done exactly what I've done any other time I relapsed. I relapsed almost immediately again. So right back on day one. I'm feeling better now though so I'm ready to get back to the streak. I just hit a really rough patch last weekend that I'm recovering from. It did a little bit more damage to me than I thought. It is time to put this behind me now though and move on. Stay strong gentleman!
That'll probably be the dreaded chaser effect wreaking havoc. The 1st 1-3 days after relapse can be killer. Stay busy and updating my friend
