I've been looking for NoFap for a long time without knowing it. My marriage (to another dude) ended last February for a lot of reasons but if I am to be honest, if I had been able to direct the energy, focus and time I was waisting on PMO onto my marriage, things probably would have gone a lot better. I don't want to take all the blame for the divorce because there was a lot of unhealthiness on his side of the street as well. But that's none of my business. My job now is to see where by own areas of opportunity for growth lie and to move forward. I'm a CrossFitter and I had already decided to spend the first six months of 2014 working out hard, eating a clean Paleo diet and abstaining from POM. I also have set up some pretty clear spiritual and career goals for myself as well. I'm 16 years clean and sober from drugs and alcohol and I've been aware for some time how porn and masturbation have served as a ready substitute when I wanted to medicate my feelings. I've also realized (probably now more than ever) that in the same ways drugs and alcohol eventually came to cause more problems than they "solved," POM has created much more liability than any perceived benefit. I have suffered from porn induced ED for years without even knowing what it was. I'm praying that both my body and my mind can go through a healthy "reboot" over this next several months. I'm willing to do whatever it takes. I dream of being able to be married again some day. This time I'd like to bring a healthier version of myself to the partnership.
Welcome to the group, SIX MONTHS! Best hopes for beating your addiction. Stick around and talk with us, share, and gain strength from the sharing!
Hi there and welcome! Mine is a similar story to yours, marriage ended recently and although I'm a better person for it it hurt and I don't want to repeat the same patterns etc. You'll get plenty of support on here. Lots of perspectives- something for everyone etc. All the best to you
Thanks Jason. Will do. Hey man, just wondering, can you see my counter on my posts? Thought I set one up but maybe I didn't do it right. Congrats on your 370 days man!
Wow, we are in a similar situation. I ended my 13 year partnership with the man that I thought I'd spend the rest of my life with this past May. It was a heavy blow to me. But it made me see so many things that I wouldn't have seen about me and my life. Since we broke up and he took the kids with him I've lost weight, gotten really healthy, go to the gym again regularly, and eat a clean diet. It's changed my life. I too suffer from porn induced ED. I've met a great guy and I can't perform like he can. It scares the hell out of me. So I am also embarking on this journey. I need to get this part of my life fixed. I agree with what you said, "I dream being able to be married again some day." I hope this guy understands what I'm going through. Yes, I too want a healthier version of me into this new relationship. Peace!
Thank you Jim, for sharing your story. It makes me feel comfort that I'm not alone in this. To tell the truth, today has not been the best day. I've decided (after a lackluster performance with another dude today-- on a date so that was allowed) that I'm going to go completely PMO for six months. I need to hit the reset bar in a major way.
