New Thread - First week sober. BOOYAH!

I am sure it will be worth all the pain you put into it. You went through a steep hill, but the view is awesome. Keep going!

 

The problem is sexting, not the girl

hm... reading your nick I have to say I like it very much. Brain fog is exactly how I feel and as the sober time adds up, mist is going away, those cobwebs are no longer covering my body. I find the scene in the Two Tower from the Lord of the Rings very relating to me> http://youtu.be/PY9eRkdIeuk?t=1m49s

"Dropping a girl", it is not like dropping a pebble into the river, or is it? Isn't she more than just another browser tab with porn in it? You think clicking a close button makes you a hero instantly? I think the problem is sexting, not the girl. Try to approach her, it may bring new quality into your relationship. She may even become your accountability partner, or maybe you in turn will be a support for her to break from her attachments. Just because she is a girl it does not mean she cannot be hooked to PMO.

This is a test of your relationship. It can bring it to its end, but it can also breathe new life in it. Addiction is depriving us of our friends. Sometimes we need to part, but I would think twice before I say so long to someone.

You do not walk this path alone! None of us here in this forum will be able to support you better than a real-life friend that knows you and whom you know. Opening up to them is a great, but very important and rewarding challenge. You want to have friends around you to celebrate with when you break free and reach your goal.

 

Just wanted to stop in and congratulate you on your first week. I'll also agree with Athelas in that the behavior is the problem, not the relationship.

If you genuinely like this girl, you should not throw your relationship with her away idly. Nofap is nothing to be ashamed of, and if her behavior is holding you back, I would suggest telling her so and seeing how she reacts. If she is supportive, then you have an ally, and probably a woman of character.

If she is not, then she probably isn't emotionally mature enough to help you with this journey, though I would recommend that you still let her down easily rather than drop her. She is still a person after all.

 

you can do it!

 

This can feel super hard, constant depression and not being true yourself in front of trusted friends is a dead end.

But for you this time is also a time of discovery. If you don't numb the pain with masturbation, you will have finally opportunity to go through it. Now you can face the real problem and begin to understand it. Do not let it to overpower you completely though and seek help whenever you feel like you need it.

You can always turn to this forum to help you stay away from masturbating, but there is another, bigger issue, that at the moment is hidden from us. It may need a professional, trusted friend, or you can work it yourself. Just be aware that you don't have to do this alone.

(I was having suicidal thought from two years, sometimes superstrong up to the point of planning. I fought it, I overpowered it. Felt like a hero that I did it alone, no medication, no brain doctor. However, only much later I realized I did not overcome them. I numbed them. I was lucky to meet a dear friend who happened to be also psychologist. I got professional help and finally got rid of the past. There is no shame about it, just as there is no heroistic laudacio when fighting it alone. You will not do a surgery on your knee just because you think you can. Unless you are Chuck Norris, that is.)

 

Congrats on the continued success. I haven't had a wet dream yet myself. Not sure when that normally happens. This being said, I am not having a lot of issues with pressure or anything like that myself. Occasionally there is a little bit of an ache type feeling, but it isn't constant or distracting in any way.

I read on one of the success posts that you can stop an unwanted erection by flexing your muscles. I've been doing this the last couple days since I seem to be getting a lot of "morning wood" and it seems to work pretty well. I think it's from the redirected blood flow.

 

Hey man, nice work. Starting to build a streak. Keep it going man. Do you find its getting easier to manage the urges now that the first week is under your belt?
Good luck to you, keep right.

Nulife

 

Come on man! You're on the way to reveal the real YOU. The challenge changed my life, keep up the good work and you'll see the results soon!