Hi. I'm a 26 years old male, and I have been dealing with porn issue for 11 years. the problem I wanted to share with you is that sometimes that I'm home, I don't think about porn or masturbating, but as soon as I get alone in house, even-though I'm not aroused or horny, or in seek of any kind of porn, just because I'm alone, I find myself watching porn and son on. Actually I find being alone an opportunity to use. "if you are alone, then you should take advantage of this situation and watch porn and masturbate. because you may not find this situation again easily.", probably this is the inner voice of my brain when I get alone. to summarize, the problem is that many times I watch porn and masturbate, but I don't even enjoy( in terms of sexual joy) it at all.
Hello, I did just the same. When i had the chance and was alone in the house, it was like i had to Masturbate to Porn, just because it was possible. It cam to my Attention then, that i am Addicted. Now i am alone in the house and dident PMOed since 7 Days!
exactly. you are right. maybe this is the first and the most important sign of the addiction. I'm new here and taking first steps to quit PM. I hope I can solve this problem soon. in fact I'm not sure what's best for me. suppose someone is alone in house and feeling temptation to grab his/her phone or computer to watch porn. should he/she just leave the house? go outside, walk on the street and somehow focus his mind on something else, should he/she just stay home and convince him/herself that he/she can resist this temptation because he/she is strong enough to do so. the point is some people take the first method(leaving house) as a sign of weakness and a temporary way to dissolve the problem and they believe it wont have constant results and effect on the process of quitting porn.anyway,thank you for sharing your idea with me.
I understand the temptations and been there myself many times! It's all a short fix when you decide to make use of the precious time as you may not have much of an opportunity to do it again - our minds are so good at convincing us that it is the right thing to do! I'm still working on trying to distract myself, stay productive etc. That incognito tab is such an automatic response to fire up whatever fantasy you want on your screen in a matter of seconds! Staying at home and resisting the temptation head on is very difficult but not impossible - gotta be self disciplined and I'm, safe to say, not at that level yet.
I would not judge it a weakness to go out . I would do just what helps in the Moment. Sport is a good thing to do and Meditation. Having appointments, meeting People, looking for a new Hobby that gives Joy, doing the Things one always wanted to do but never did... To resist, while sitting at the computer is more difficult but you will find out, what works best for you. I am also rather new to NoFap, just try to find the best way for me. There are many signs of Addiction, but it stroke me, that i was not able to decide wether i wanted to PMO ore not, i just took every chance.
Been there many times. Completely and totally unaroused yet there I was acting out. It is truly an addiction.
Boredom, go to do anything else. Also plus you stop being lazy, another bad habit Peace write PM to me if you want help
