Brothers, I need some help for my first 90 days challenge

You are not a failure. A failure wouldn't keep trying to quit, wouldn't sign up to this forum, or admit to experiencing anxiety. Everyone here will support you in whatever way we can. Good luck on your journey.

 

Absolutely! I know what you mean about it being a downward spiral. I have relapsed so many times I have considered quitting quitting and just accepting that being a fapper is who I am. But I am better than that.

120 days? Is that all? We'll smash it together!

 

Never give up on yourself. Keep it up. And keep your faith strong.

 

'sup Zelmeg - Welcome! I'm new here too. 8 days today. I've been in your situation and worse. So now we both know we have a problem, LETS DO THIS! N0 EXCUSES.

I've decided to go monk mode, which isn't for everyone. But I know it's all part of resetting my brain back to factory settings.

 

What do you consider Monk Mode? I have tried to find a consistent set of rules for it but I have not been able to.

 

Mine is just meditation mode, which comes with the factor about being educated by the bad effect of porn addiction and the impact it has on their loved ones.

 

For me, monk mode is no pmo. Period,

 

hmm, interesting point of view.

 

Exactly - no PMO.

My own rules are: giving a girl an orgasm is ok, even sex is ok - so long as I don't orgasm. I haven't decided if this is forever, but I'm committed to 100 days, which will probably be the longest duration of no O in my adult life.

 

Zelmeg - you're only 3 days behind me so we're really in the same boat my friend. In fact, you've already achieved more than me as I don't even think I've managed 30 days in my adult life! So kudos for that.

What this comes down to is the stories we tell ourselves. If we really want to end this problem, we're going to have to re-write those stories. We don't need this crap. End of

 

Im day 11, but im wondering when will I know its ok to O again? What happens if something happens with a girl? The whole reason why im doing this is because ive PMO'd for years and years and only just realised how damaging it is, and that ive had problems in the passed with getting erect with girls. So im hoping this will fix it, and how will I know when im better?

 

It's a tricky question because it depends on what your end goal is. If you're doing hard mode - no PMO then it would not be advisable to O until you reach your target.

If you're just refraining from PM, then if the right girl comes along, then go for it if it feels right to you. Just be warned, if you're experiencing erectile dysfunction, it may not resolve itself quickly.

 

May the nofap be with you

 

well Ive seemed to have trouble getting erect but this was before I found out about PIED since I was watching porn daily for many years. Im planning to go 90 days with no PMO hard mode and see how I go? I just don't really know what to expect when Ive cured myself? I know that it takes different times for different people. I just want to be about to get normal erections with girls like how I used to be before I went through a bad break up and used porn everyday. But I know I will reach 90 days because I don't want to experience such a embarrassing moment like I had with a girl ever again so I need to do this!!!!!!!

 

Booya! The pain of self-discipline beats the pain of regret. Let's do this!

My original Day 1 post is here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...rt-over-100-days-hard-mode-lets-do-it.198039/

...that's the thread where I'll be updating my own journey.

Keep us posted Zelmeg