I AM FUCKED

The problem is that you're so far down the rabbit hole, your brain needs ever-increasing doses of stimulation to keep you going.

You have a severe addiction, which of course you already realise.

Please get professional help. I don't know where you live, but you could look at counselling, CBT, mindfulness, hypnotherapy, NLP, meditation, …

Your doctor might also be able to help.

Get as much help as you can.

If you have a trusted friend or family member who will absolutely support you and keep your confidentiality, seek their support as well.

While you're about it, you need to commit to a full 90-day reboot. Doing this stuff, even if you avoid porn and you don't masturbate, is having the same effect as PMO — well, worse, actually. You seriously need a full reboot.

Best of luck! Keep posting and we'll support you.

 

Where did you get this idea from?

 

In my experience one will inevitably lead to another. You don't find masterbation in nature.

 

Actually you do. I’ve seen various videos of other apes masturbating. There’s no such thing as porn for chimpanzees yet they can still masturbate.

 

One isolated incident. If you want to emulate an ape it's your choice.

 

Professional help might be what you need bro...how much do you have to lose before you intervene?? I got help was the best thing I ever did.

 

Whether or not occasional masturbation is OK is contentious. As long as your addiction is over, I really wouldn't worry about it — so it's been written in the main site and in the forums, as I recall. Of course it must be only to relieve sexual pressure, not for stress relief, and must be neither excessive nor using porn.

(Personally, I'm aiming to stop altogether if I can.)

Yes, masturbation is found in nature in a number of species (including dogs), but naturally it's occasional and not an addictive behaviour.

Finally, let me leave you with a quote that I read. "You have to do it by yourself, and you can't do it alone." You're welcome to try to do this without help, but unfortunately addicts have a tendency to be overconfident in their abilities to overcome their addiction, rather than solve the underlying problem that causes their addiction in the first place. It's a bit like wallpapering over a large, growing crack instead of fixing the wall.

 

Yes, that contradiction is deliberate on the part of the author, I believe. The comment is designed to make you think, and works especially well for people who believe that they have to "man up" and do it alone, by themselves. The contradiction forces a double take and self-questioning.

Sometimes pedantics work against healing

That's a great resource; thank you for sharing.

 

@GhostWriter — Thinking further and remembering how that quote struck me when I first read it, I don't think it has to be a contradiction. Try this interpretation: You can't do it alone — you need people in your life — but no one can do it for you. You have to do it by yourself.

It's a matter of semantics; it depends on which way you look at it, on how specifically you interpret the words.

Maybe that's where the power of the apparent contradiction lies — the ambiguity forces you to rethink how you were thinking, and to understand the deeper message?

 

That's exactly what I thought when I had given up pornography for some time and was only masturbating a few times a week.
Nothing could have been more wrong as it still depleted me of essential minerals and gave me dopamine spikes that made everything else in life feel dull, boring and indifferent.

 

I missed up big to to bro like frik! Talk about nightmares

I was just doing alright on like day 15/16

But then

I relapsed after church last night
Then unfortunately binged through the night

Woke up and jerked off some more

Then I tried turning to God for help I went for a run trying to escape the pain of what I did and how disgusted I felt

I relapsed again after my run

Then I lost all hope

And then here I am new to the nofap famstarting day 1 on the first day of the year

 

Its no ok brother

Dont have the fallacy that it is ok to masturbate less frequently

Whenever you relapse your kidney gets affected

It takes some days to regenerate semen

But it will take months to recover your kidney

 

Are you sure about this? I've never read anything like this, and even when I used to fap away, the doctor's tests showed my kidneys to be in top condition. If you have any references, I'd like to see them, please?

 

Just a thought.

If you say you're ready to pay money, consider donating some moderate amount to a charity of your choice.

Even if only 10 bucks.

 

The thought of stopping an addiction or habit straight away for ever can be overwhelming. You’ve gradually got deeper into this so now start taking steps back out. Block adult websites on all devices. Start a Nofap challenge. Change routines. Move your computer somewhere other than your bedroom.

You can it brother

 

Please sens me your email address I will send you a book read it

It is written by a person who has save d himself from PMO for more than 4 years