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Overcoming internal shame

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Mr R.R, Jan 25, 2019.

  1. Jan 25, 2019 #1
    Mr R.R

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    Today I was reading a book ''No more Mr Nice guy' in this book Dr Robert Clover has suggested that as a nice guy we have many traits and to escape them we resort to different compulsive behaviors like porn and Masturbation.We develop toxic shame within ourself.To get our life back we need to overcome this shame by expressing our dark secrets with some safe people. As revealing your dark secrets helps us to overcome fast and helps us to get out of that shame.

    My question is I am suffering from PIED and was porn addict for almost 15 years
    Do I share this secret like '' I cant hav erectction at all' to some safe people in my life .Will it help me overcome my shame and help me to gain my lost self esteem?? Does expressing my self helps in faster rebooting ?Has anyone tried doing this in real life ??? Please suggest and share your experience.
     
    Mr R.R, Jan 25, 2019
    Mr R.R, Jan 25, 2019
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  2. Jan 25, 2019 #2
    graymatter13

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    I personally don't think this is a good idea,
    If you want and need to talk about it you might go for it, but it won't help solving the problem

    Including myself, we mostly seek boosters and life-changers from outside
    Self-esteem and confidence are also a part of this
    We lay our expectations on the outside world and want the results to come,
    But we can't control it, all we have is ourselves

    The day we solve our self-esteem problem permanently will be the day we are depending it on ourselves
    The real solution lies within you,
    It's in there 100%, I guarantee you
    And anyone on this planet is capable of solving any problem they have

    If it's not in your control, then it can't be your problem
    But your life... It's definitely in your control

    There are big rocks and obstacles on the way, but when you reach the peak, you'll remember them and only smile

    Trust yourself buddy, and try to challenge your beliefs, try to think on solutions on your part

    You'll find a way out, because we all can...
     
    graymatter13, Jan 25, 2019
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