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Depressed AF.

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by FeelTheThunder, Jan 29, 2019.

  1. FeelTheThunder

    FeelTheThunder Fapstronaut

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    Recently fell in infatuation / attraction with a girl in my class, she showed interest (atleast i think so), When i sat next to her in class she came closed towards me and other types of BS including asking me how my exam went, etc.
    My friend once called her with my phone to ask for a mock question paper which she had, her mother picked up and stated she was out. After I reached home she messaged me on WhatsApp and told me to call her and talked to me about the subject and said she's gonna skip this exam, and suggested me to skip it too.
    During October 2018, she wished me a Happy Diwali with her pic (indian festival) and I didn't reply to her because I don't think I liked her and ignored her. She talked to me this month when I started liking her and yeah she added me on fb, sent a "hello" in whatsapp, helped me in my exams by clarifying some questions etc. Now i felt that it was wrong on my part to make her initiate literally every single convo so i sent her a "Hi" to which she didn't reply or see, later I asked her about the class which I skipped and its been a day without a reply. I don't have the guts to call her as her mother may pick up or I really don't know what to talk about.
    Also
    Since i hit my 90 day goal ( I was PMO free by 50 days ), A Fapstronaut suggested me I can consider occasional masturbation once i hit my 90 day mark.
    But I feel there is no such thing as "Occasional masturbation", you fap once, then you fap twice, then you almost fap once a week then once day.
    So uhm yeah i got bored and decided to share my story. thats it
     
    Last edited: Jan 30, 2019
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  2. SolitaryScribe

    SolitaryScribe Fapstronaut

    You are correct sir, these is no such thing as occasional masturbation. Stay away from that guys advice
     
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  3. overratedrubesy

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    what does 497 and 92 days feel like, respectively?
     
  4. CTRL + DEL

    CTRL + DEL Fapstronaut

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    Just go for it, unless u don't like her or wanna toy around with her or something.

    I can guarantee she's into u
     
  5. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    Occasional masturbation is like occasional cocaine. Do not listen to such bullshit advice please. One masturbation can make you start to masturbate often and then porn comes to it you won't even know and you are back to square 0.
     
  6. FeelTheThunder

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    Yeah, I have controlled myself enough but I'm kinda curious what it feels to ejaculate again and i wanna see how much i can ejaculate but yeah I'm gonna control till i finish my exams and maybe I'll find some other date till which i won't fap
     
  7. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    Good luck to you with a try. You playing with fire :)
     
  8. brilliantidiot

    brilliantidiot Fapstronaut

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    this
     
  9. SolitaryScribe

    SolitaryScribe Fapstronaut

    It's almost like going from having this tooth ache that won't go away to not having that paint anymore and forgetting what it felt like. I go about my daily life just like any other person, only exception is I'm not bothered by this nagging feeling of horniness or the need to masturbate. I also don't have the anxiety and depression that came from heavy porn use, also am able to talk to women regularly and actually see them as human beings.

    Whenever I think about who I was, it almost seems like a whole different person. It makes me extremely glad to have changed.
     
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  10. EthanW.

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    I don't understand why you're depressed. Because she didn't reply?

    Yeah, women are notoriously flaky and fickle. Doesn't she go to your campus? Don't you see her around, irl? Just swing by wherever she hangs out and talk to her.

    Are you trying to keep things status-quo? Just ask how's her school work going, feel it out from there.

    Are you wanting to date this woman? Go in with a plan when you meet her in real life: "Hey, [chick's name], what's up? [listen to answer] Cool. Hey, listen, I'm in a rush right now, but why don't we catch up later? [you said it's been months since you hung out, right?] I've been wanting to reconnect. I know this cool place called [name of casual-though interesting restaurant; not seafood, a chain or a buffet; not usually crowded; not in a mall], and I was thinking I would go there soon. Would you like to come?"

    Easy. It's up to you whether you want to clarify if it's a "date-date," when she asks (if she likes you she'll probably ask), and you can handle that how you want. I'd recommend be playful about it.

    You can change venue type and customize the time you're asking her to go with you, but that's it for starting something with girls.

    I don't know why you would be depressed, bro, it sounds like you're still in the game... And it's only been a day?!
     
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  11. FeelTheThunder

    FeelTheThunder Fapstronaut

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    Im not really sure why I'm depressed or stuff, maybe its my marks in exams, maybe its because I could've scored higher if that invigilator had let me write for another five minutes or maybe because she isn't coming since 5 days. Or maybe its because she usually replies (I mean it was she who initiated the convo IRL, in WhatsApp and even in facebok it was she who added me and even said that she saw my profile in a class). I really don't know why and I just wanted to share my story since I'd like to hear opinions from various people.
     
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  12. EthanW.

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    Just take things as they come, bro. You know what you want from life, and the more you find progress in the things you want for yourself (health, fitness, job skills, etc.) the more you will find that failure fades to the background of the good things in life. Keep pushing and never look back.
     
  13. FeelTheThunder

    FeelTheThunder Fapstronaut

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    Only for the first few weeks the Day Counter mattered to me. After a month or so, the day counter kept increasing without much hardwork in resisting urges as you learn to live with it.
    I don't even remember what an orgasm feels like anymore.
     
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  14. fapdroid

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    She hasn't replied for 5 days?!?!?!? It's India, man, you sure she isn't married already? LOL, just kidding, it's possible she is just busy with life. Running into her IRL is best, but if you really want to gauge whether she is into you, start talking to another girl in the class, not flirting like a player, just talking. If she is seriously into you, she'll ask around and lock you down. Lower the supply of you, watch the demand go up.
     

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