Porn has destroyed my sexual life, Challenge 60 days

You have made a positive step forward. And you are young, much younger than me. I do not think I will ever have sex again due to decades of fapping. Nevertheless, you need to overcome this addiction. Being honest with yourself is a good step. I think you have hope but you probably need some kind of counselling. Do not be afraid to take that step. And there is more to life than that, which is something everyone here probably needs a reminder of every now and then. You can do it.

 

Very good post Ogikubo. Why so down on yourself though..?? There are a lot of people that have fapped for more than 10 years but you should trust in the reboot process and take however long it does.

 

Hello my friend,

I got in contact with porn when I was 13 years old and now I am porn addicted since 35 years. I always wanted to get rid of this addiction but I didn’t know how. I found this community and this gives me so much motivation. I am porn free since dec 7th. My life has improved so much since then.

We are all here to help you. It’s so great that you face your problem. Most people don’t realize this or ly to themselves. You are on the right direction. Of course It is a hard fight. But it’s worth it. You will get back your sexuality. It’s good that you are looking for help. Please keep fighting. I will.

 

Wow I am proud of you my friend. You are so self reflected. Great that you are facing the real problems in your life. I wish you the best. Keep fighting.

 

Well, I am concerned that since I have been doing it for so long, I don't know. I have always been inclined to believe the problem was more psychological than physical, but there is no denying that I just cannot get very hard anymore. I also did not mean to sound down on myself - I think I am better at encouraging others than myself. A dozen days now. That is the most I have gone in years. But I will follow your advice and I truly appreciate your words.

 

I have been doing it for a long time too and I went hard mode immediately the first time. No messing around. I have been having to deal with a lot of emotions as well since stopping but I will grow from this experience as an adult I know it. I will it let these emotions take control but delaneitb them until they are gone. Keep going and you will feel better...

 

I'm married but my wife and I haven't had sex in years. Years. The last time we tried it was frustrating, but all that was going through my mind was images of porn. We were close to penetration, but couldn't do it. Mind you, that was the last time I had made the effort to quit porn. It was probably a week or so into it. I think if I had stuck with it we could've done it. This is what my habits have done to me. I have a beautiful wife and kids and a sexless marriage and we get along fine, but we both know it's not the real deal.

 

Your not alone man! Many of us have been struggling for years! We have to stay away from P. You may have many resets and relapses. But you will use those to go stronger and longer each time.

 

I do have a psychologist and have been too shy to even broach this matter. I guess I had so many things to unload and deal with that it never seemed like the issue to bring up. Now, how surprised will she be when I finally talk about this? My plan was to get to the goal of 90 days and have an appointment at that time to tell I'd made steps on my own. Now I think that is putting it off too long and will make an appointment sooner. I wonder if she will encourage me to go to a therapist who deals with sexual matters such as this? Maybe. In any case, I am very lucky to have a terrific psychologist. I'd appreciate your feedback. Have you ever had a sex therapist?

 

I understand how you feel. And I know it is different for everyone, and I have only been serious about quitting for about 2 weeks now, but I feel so much more in control than before. Any other benefits would also be a blessing. Cheers and keep on with your great decision. I appreciate your words.