Learned a Lesson Over the Past Year

Deleted Account · Feb 6, 2019

This post is a reflection on my life over the past year or so. I had been sort of coasting through life, my main focus was my job, I had no social life at all, my two favorite leisure activities were video games and porn. I was using porn every day and not bothered by it, I had never heard of NoFap at that point. In January 2018, I decided to try going off my anti-depressant medication because I felt like I didn't need it and thought I might actually feel better in terms of having more energy. Big mistake. After about a month, the depression came back with a vengeance. I started to worry about the fact that I was almost 35 and never had a girlfriend, was unhappy with my job, etc. In February 2018, I started going to the gym more and more mainly to try to help with the depression. But the depression worsened over the next few months. I felt the most alone I ever felt in my life. No social life at all. I started to regret using porn. So I tried cutting back, with not much success. I turned 35. I thought I was destined never to have a girlfriend or have sex. I thought porn was my destiny. So I used my tax return to buy some sex toys, a fuckable female butt and a Fleshlight, almost $500. Buying those things was rock bottom. They didn't enhance the experience like I had hoped and were a pain to clean. What a waste. I started seeing a therapist for the depression, and went back on the antidepressant. By this point I was having regular crying spells. I decided I needed to have a support system, a social life of some sort, so in June 2018, I went to my first Meetup group in 10 years, a huge singles event with over 100 people, I didn't know a single person there. And it went fine. I started going to at least one Meetup group per week and have kept that going to this day. At that point I was also going to the gym almost every day. In July 2018, I was watching an episode of the Joe Rogan show where he was talking about this thing called NoFap, which I had never heard of before, I decided to check it out. I joined and immediately went on a 23 day streak of no PMO, and I have not had a longer streak since then, but have still substantially cut down on my PMO. In August 2018, I decided to consider making efforts to talk to women, I started studying some pick-up skills and tried to be more mindful when being around women, and I've maintained that to this day, with slow but increasing success. By fall 2018, my depression was much better. I'm still going to the gym most days, and I also continue to improve my cooking skills too.

A year ago, I was pretty hopeless and alone. I was scared. But I started to take slow steps towards improving myself. I’m glad that I started those steps then, and didn’t wait another year. I’m glad my crisis is a year in the past, and not just starting. This is a lesson I’ll take with me

ProtagonistOfMyLife · Feb 7, 2019

Inspiring mate. It's never too late to start.

Troels. L · Feb 7, 2019

SuperFurryThing said: ↑

This post is a reflection on my life over the past year or so. I had been sort of coasting through life, my main focus was my job, I had no social life at all, my two favorite leisure activities were video games and porn. I was using porn every day and not bothered by it, I had never heard of NoFap at that point. In January 2018, I decided to try going off my anti-depressant medication because I felt like I didn't need it and thought I might actually feel better in terms of having more energy. Big mistake. After about a month, the depression came back with a vengeance. I started to worry about the fact that I was almost 35 and never had a girlfriend, was unhappy with my job, etc. In February 2018, I started going to the gym more and more mainly to try to help with the depression. But the depression worsened over the next few months. I felt the most alone I ever felt in my life. No social life at all. I started to regret using porn. So I tried cutting back, with not much success. I turned 35. I thought I was destined never to have a girlfriend or have sex. I thought porn was my destiny. So I used my tax return to buy some sex toys, a fuckable female butt and a Fleshlight, almost $500. Buying those things was rock bottom. They didn't enhance the experience like I had hoped and were a pain to clean. What a waste. I started seeing a therapist for the depression, and went back on the antidepressant. By this point I was having regular crying spells. I decided I needed to have a support system, a social life of some sort, so in June 2018, I went to my first Meetup group in 10 years, a huge singles event with over 100 people, I didn't know a single person there. And it went fine. I started going to at least one Meetup group per week and have kept that going to this day. At that point I was also going to the gym almost every day. In July 2018, I was watching an episode of the Joe Rogan show where he was talking about this thing called NoFap, which I had never heard of before, I decided to check it out. I joined and immediately went on a 23 day streak of no PMO, and I have not had a longer streak since then, but have still substantially cut down on my PMO. In August 2018, I decided to consider making efforts to talk to women, I started studying some pick-up skills and tried to be more mindful when being around women, and I've maintained that to this day, with slow but increasing success. By fall 2018, my depression was much better. I'm still going to the gym most days, and I also continue to improve my cooking skills too.

A year ago, I was pretty hopeless and alone. I was scared. But I started to take slow steps towards improving myself. I’m glad that I started those steps then, and didn’t wait another year. I’m glad my crisis is a year in the past, and not just starting. This is a lesson I’ll take with me
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SuperFurryThing said: ↑

This post is a reflection on my life over the past year or so. I had been sort of coasting through life, my main focus was my job, I had no social life at all, my two favorite leisure activities were video games and porn. I was using porn every day and not bothered by it, I had never heard of NoFap at that point. In January 2018, I decided to try going off my anti-depressant medication because I felt like I didn't need it and thought I might actually feel better in terms of having more energy. Big mistake. After about a month, the depression came back with a vengeance. I started to worry about the fact that I was almost 35 and never had a girlfriend, was unhappy with my job, etc. In February 2018, I started going to the gym more and more mainly to try to help with the depression. But the depression worsened over the next few months. I felt the most alone I ever felt in my life. No social life at all. I started to regret using porn. So I tried cutting back, with not much success. I turned 35. I thought I was destined never to have a girlfriend or have sex. I thought porn was my destiny. So I used my tax return to buy some sex toys, a fuckable female butt and a Fleshlight, almost $500. Buying those things was rock bottom. They didn't enhance the experience like I had hoped and were a pain to clean. What a waste. I started seeing a therapist for the depression, and went back on the antidepressant. By this point I was having regular crying spells. I decided I needed to have a support system, a social life of some sort, so in June 2018, I went to my first Meetup group in 10 years, a huge singles event with over 100 people, I didn't know a single person there. And it went fine. I started going to at least one Meetup group per week and have kept that going to this day. At that point I was also going to the gym almost every day. In July 2018, I was watching an episode of the Joe Rogan show where he was talking about this thing called NoFap, which I had never heard of before, I decided to check it out. I joined and immediately went on a 23 day streak of no PMO, and I have not had a longer streak since then, but have still substantially cut down on my PMO. In August 2018, I decided to consider making efforts to talk to women, I started studying some pick-up skills and tried to be more mindful when being around women, and I've maintained that to this day, with slow but increasing success. By fall 2018, my depression was much better. I'm still going to the gym most days, and I also continue to improve my cooking skills too.

A year ago, I was pretty hopeless and alone. I was scared. But I started to take slow steps towards improving myself. I’m glad that I started those steps then, and didn’t wait another year. I’m glad my crisis is a year in the past, and not just starting. This is a lesson I’ll take with me
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It was inspiring not to fall prey to your depression and you did all sorts of productive things for yourself like going to the gym and learning to cook ( both are what I do myself ) I'd add you acquire yourself multivitamins, and to seek out a dietician, to learn what minerals and vitamins you may have a natural disposition to be deficient in. Other than that it looks promising for you.

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Troels. L said: ↑

It was inspiring not to fall prey to your depression and you did all sorts of productive things for yourself like going to the gym and learning to cook ( both are what I do myself ) I'd add you acquire yourself multivitamins, and to seek out a dietician, to learn what minerals and vitamins you may have a natural disposition to be deficient in. Other than that it looks promising for you.
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Oh my diet has vastly improved as well! I do take several kinds of vitamins. I eat far more vegetables than I ever have before, I use a protein supplement every day, eat far less fast food, etc.

Thanks!

Ra's Al Ghul · Feb 7, 2019

Congratulations on making a change and improving your life and getting out there.

Deleted Account · Feb 7, 2019

Ra's Al Ghul said: ↑

Congratulations on making a change and improving your life and getting out there.
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Thanks man!

Innervision · Feb 8, 2019

Congratulations on you improvements! I'm sure it was not easy to accomplish what seems to be only smalls steps. But after-all, success is nothing but the aggregate of small steps you take on a daily basis that brings you a little closer to your ideal. Other people and even youserlf may not see the changes beginning to happen, but the accumulate effect given some time on this uprising path is inevitable to strike sooner or later. Just keep motivated and be persistent! All the best, bud!

Marik757 · Feb 8, 2019

It's very inspiring to see how others have improved on their journey. There is a lot of negativity in which one could easily join in, and set themselves back. People tend to overlook inspiration and choose to look for others to relate with in their downward spiral. To tell themselves they are not alone and using that as an means to be satisfied with life. Thus hindering their focus on ways to improve.

Stay strong!

Troels. L · Feb 8, 2019

Marik757 said: ↑

It's very inspiring to see how others have improved on their journey. There is a lot of negativity in which one could easily join in, and set themselves back. People tend to overlook inspiration and choose to look for others to relate with in their downward spiral. To tell themselves they are not alone and using that as an means to be satisfied with life. Thus hindering their focus on ways to improve.

Stay strong!
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Absolutely right. I also used to look for people who were more or equally as insecure as I used to be. Instead now I look for the people who are on the pathway of mastery. I also rarely envy others at this point

Deleted Account · Feb 8, 2019

Marik757 said: ↑

It's very inspiring to see how others have improved on their journey. There is a lot of negativity in which one could easily join in, and set themselves back. People tend to overlook inspiration and choose to look for others to relate with in their downward spiral. To tell themselves they are not alone and using that as an means to be satisfied with life. Thus hindering their focus on ways to improve.

Stay strong!
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Well said, 100% true. This is probably the single most consistent thing keeping people from changing their lives.

SuperFurryThing said: ↑

A year ago, I was pretty hopeless and alone. I was scared. But I started to take slow steps towards improving myself. I’m glad that I started those steps then, and didn’t wait another year. I’m glad my crisis is a year in the past, and not just starting. This is a lesson I’ll take with me
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Good on you! I'm glad your here. Be kind to yourself and stay persistent! No matter how many falls, no matter how many times you have to restart. If continuing toward a healthier- happier you is the only option you give yourself. You.will.receive it.

Ra's Al Ghul · Feb 9, 2019

Keep continuing to develop. Dream big. Fuck the haters, red-pill the douches.

Asgardian36 · Feb 9, 2019

SuperFurryThing said: ↑

This post is a reflection on my life over the past year or so. I had been sort of coasting through life, my main focus was my job, I had no social life at all, my two favorite leisure activities were video games and porn. I was using porn every day and not bothered by it, I had never heard of NoFap at that point. In January 2018, I decided to try going off my anti-depressant medication because I felt like I didn't need it and thought I might actually feel better in terms of having more energy. Big mistake. After about a month, the depression came back with a vengeance. I started to worry about the fact that I was almost 35 and never had a girlfriend, was unhappy with my job, etc. In February 2018, I started going to the gym more and more mainly to try to help with the depression. But the depression worsened over the next few months. I felt the most alone I ever felt in my life. No social life at all. I started to regret using porn. So I tried cutting back, with not much success. I turned 35. I thought I was destined never to have a girlfriend or have sex. I thought porn was my destiny. So I used my tax return to buy some sex toys, a fuckable female butt and a Fleshlight, almost $500. Buying those things was rock bottom. They didn't enhance the experience like I had hoped and were a pain to clean. What a waste. I started seeing a therapist for the depression, and went back on the antidepressant. By this point I was having regular crying spells. I decided I needed to have a support system, a social life of some sort, so in June 2018, I went to my first Meetup group in 10 years, a huge singles event with over 100 people, I didn't know a single person there. And it went fine. I started going to at least one Meetup group per week and have kept that going to this day. At that point I was also going to the gym almost every day. In July 2018, I was watching an episode of the Joe Rogan show where he was talking about this thing called NoFap, which I had never heard of before, I decided to check it out. I joined and immediately went on a 23 day streak of no PMO, and I have not had a longer streak since then, but have still substantially cut down on my PMO. In August 2018, I decided to consider making efforts to talk to women, I started studying some pick-up skills and tried to be more mindful when being around women, and I've maintained that to this day, with slow but increasing success. By fall 2018, my depression was much better. I'm still going to the gym most days, and I also continue to improve my cooking skills too.

A year ago, I was pretty hopeless and alone. I was scared. But I started to take slow steps towards improving myself. I’m glad that I started those steps then, and didn’t wait another year. I’m glad my crisis is a year in the past, and not just starting. This is a lesson I’ll take with me
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this is one of the best success stories in the past few months, man! Goodjob!!! Progress doesn't happen overnight. It takes months or years to see the results. I am glad and inspired for your progress with depression. The same with going to meetups and putting yourself out there. trust me, many people would have stayed home scared af. I wanna applaud you for your success, man!!

Deleted Account · Feb 9, 2019

Chappo030891 said: ↑

this is one of the best success stories in the past few months, man! Goodjob!!! Progress doesn't happen overnight. It takes months or years to see the results. I am glad and inspired for your progress with depression. The same with going to meetups and putting yourself out there. trust me, many people would have stayed home scared af. I wanna applaud you for your success, man!!
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Thanks man!

Deleted Account · Feb 13, 2019

Really good stuff mate, inspirational, nice one. Keep developing, build on where you're at to get to the next level. Forward!

keep fighting

Angus McGyver · Feb 13, 2019

Hello mate! I am glad to hear that you seem to be on the right track. Although I am 5-6 years below you in age, your story has many similarities to mine. I slowly started off with some self-improvement steps two years ago (after hitting rock bottom in the late 2016).
Remember that you are never too old to achieve greatness, fulfillment and success in life, especially if you are a male. Many of our (the West's) greatest thinkers, inventors, authors and intellectuals created most of their greatest pieces later in life. You are exactly as young as you tell your conscious mind (where the subconscious mind operates on that paradigm).
I started slowly with some simple pickup 18 months ago and finally, I start to get rid off my approach anxiety because of the acquired reference experiences (where only a few of them have actually been blowouts).

Your SMV and best years are also steadily on the increase from the age of 30 up to at least 45 so your choice and selection of high-quality women is much greater. I feel bad for my old friends who are locked up with quite mediocre women for decades to come, simply because they were too impatient and conforming in their younger year. They all fell victims to social conditioning and its standards which will keep them in mediocrity for a long-ass time to come.
Every day, I am God grateful for my gifts and the fact that I have been able to turn my life around almost 180 degrees in only two short years.
Being a late bloomer is certainly not bad at all but something that should be cherished amongst men!!

Deleted Account · Feb 13, 2019

Angus McGyver said: ↑

Hello mate! I am glad to hear that you seem to be on the right track. Although I am 5-6 years below you in age, your story has many similarities to mine. I slowly started off with some self-improvement steps two years ago (after hitting rock bottom in the late 2016).
Remember that you are never too old to achieve greatness, fulfillment and success in life, especially if you are a male. Many of our (the West's) greatest thinkers, inventors, authors and intellectuals created most of their greatest pieces later in life. You are exactly as young as you tell your conscious mind (where the subconscious mind operates on that paradigm).
I started slowly with some simple pickup 18 months ago and finally, I start to get rid off my approach anxiety because of the acquired reference experiences (where only a few of them have actually been blowouts).

Your SMV and best years are also steadily on the increase from the age of 30 up to at least 45 so your choice and selection of high-quality women is much greater. I feel bad for my old friends who are locked up with quite mediocre women for decades to come, simply because they were too impatient and conforming in their younger year. They all fell victims to social conditioning and its standards which will keep them in mediocrity for a long-ass time to come.
Every day, I am God grateful for my gifts and the fact that I have been able to turn my life around almost 180 degrees in only two short years.
Being a late bloomer is certainly not bad at all but something that should be cherished amongst men!!
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Hell yeah! Spot on!

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