So I'm about seven days into this and I was curious about opinions on having sex with my wife. I've been completely open to her about NoFap and she supports be fully. I don't know if it's the complete honesty we're sharing now or something else, but our sexual desire for each other has been through the roof, more than it's been at any point in our 5 years of marriage. I've had some pretty serious porn addiction issues and I'm breaking away from that. Basically, would it be detrimental to me and my wife to indulge these desires or would it be safe to have sex with her without hurting my ability. It almost feels like it's cheating, as it would probably eliminate my desire for porn or masturbation period. Thanks in advance!
Granted I've never been married, but I have lost a couple relationships to my fapping addiction and low sex drive. I would say since you and your wife are tackling this problem together, healthy sexual contact could prove to be productive. It all depends on how you feel after as your brain may need more time to rewire. I would say more science is needed and it warrants experimentation.
You are married and love your wife. Having marital and consensual sex with her is never going to be cheating. Take it as training your body and mind to getting used to her and her alone. Enjoy it, notice all the small things you never paid attention to, smother her with live and affection outside of the bedroom as well. Seriously, the desire to be with your wife is a good thing, take it and go with it.
I'd say just try it out and see whether it helps you or not. It's not cheating, that's for sure. However, if you feel afterwards that the urges for PMO return and you can't handle them, switch to hard mode. I personally didn't want to take that chance and started out with hard mode right away. But it's your call.
